I don't really know how to start this but first of all, I have a lot of extended family. Like 50+ cousins. And basically I feel like the matriarch of my family is my great-grandma, like the majority of us always go to visit her (unless we live in another city) and I've met a lot of my relatives at her house. When I was younger, one of my cousins used to live at her house because he had family troubles although I don't know all the details. He's a few years older than me so I'd say when I was around ten, he was fifteen. He's not my first cousin, my great-grandma is his grandma so I think that makes him my first cousin once-removed. We used to play games sometimes and I always thought he was cool. I always really treasured those memories and I was sad when he moved away for college. We didn't keep in contact so I have talked him in 9 years. So I hadn't really heard much about him and I always kind of wondered what he was up to nowadays. And I was at my great-grandma's house a few weeks ago and she brings him up, telling us that he's transitioning…well, she didn't say like that, she was pretty confused about it all but I got the gist of it lol. He was born female and I always knew him as female, right up until the moment she told us he was trans. I'd always kind of thought about getting back in touch with him, just here and there but I never acted on it. After hearing that he was FTM too, I just felt really compelled to try and get in touch…like it'd be cool to have a family member in my life who was going through the same sorts of stuff and who understood what it was like. Maybe I could tell him that I always sort of looked up to him, even more so now. I know a lot of my family has cut him off so I thought maybe it would also mean something to him if I was there? And okay, after some sleuthing on Facebook, I found his profile since my great-grandma told us his new name. Maybe that's creepy but I don't know how else I was supposed to get in touch lol. I was going to send him a friend request but I'm having second thoughts…like I don't know, should I just leave the past in the past? As I said, we haven't seen each other in 9 years and I get the feeling that our friendship didn't really mean as much to him as it did to me. I mean, I looked up to him but he probably just though I was an annoying little kid…I don't even know if he'll remember me. Should I give it a shot and try to reconnect or should I just leave everything in the past?