I hope this is the right place to post this and isn't too graphic, but let me blunt, I am 21 and have never felt sexual pleasure. I thought I was straight but over the past year I've come to terms that I am bi: both romantically, and sexually, attracted to men and women. I have never done anything with another person, not because I don't want to, I just have zero social skills to make it happen. At one point I started to convince myself I can't know my sexuality until I actually try something, but like shouldn't you be able to bring pleasure yourself on your own? Like I've tried everything the internet has to other and nothing. Are things really going to be different because its with another person? Is there something wrong with me? I asked my pediatrician a year or two ago (leaving out the queerness), and his response was "maybe you're too smart for it." That felt like total BS so I have continued to be confused and frustrated. Has anyone else experienced this?
This is going to sound odd, but maybe you were too focused on the end result you didn't enjoy the getting to it part. Your brain has a lot more to do with sex than most people think. Anxiety, depression, and other emotions can affect your ability to orgasm. It is possible to be so excited about something that you can't enjoy it either. Instead of just thinking about climax, try being more in the moment and finding what feels good to you first.
So you haven't been able to cum while jacking off ever? What does it feel like when you jack off? Do you jack off to porn or your fantasies? I'm trying to get a better picture to see what we can suggest are things that you might be able to try out. Shorthaul is right that your mind can be a huge obstacle for it, but if we figure out what is going on we might be able to give you tips on how to overcome it. Yeah, that makes no sense. What did you tell him?
When I try to jack off it feels the same as rubbing any body part. Like I feel touch but nothing beyond that, no pleasure or sensation of any kind. I've tried jacking off to both, I get an erection just fine but as soon as I touch myself it dies pretty quick because, well, nothing is really happening. All I told my doctor was that I didn't feel sexual pleasure and he ended it there acting like it wasn't a big deal. I scheduled an appointment with a new doctor for a few days from now, but it's awkward because I had to poorly lie to my parents about why I was going because there is no way I am going to be able to discuss this with them.
That's very abnormal. It certainly isn't supposed to feel like rubbing any other body part, the pleasure exists because genitals have like 100x more nerve endings than anywhere else on the body which is why it's more sensitive. You should definitely talk to a doctor about it, the only things I can think of are a mental block preventing you from enjoying it or the nerves being damaged somehow.
