Apologies if not the right forum for this... Has anyone had problems with sex compulsions or addictions? Keen to hear people's journeys to inspire my own. I've seen two therapists over the past 2 years and neither really helped me knuckle down on why I feel how I feel. But I think it's because therapists don't like to tell you what to do and they let you steer the direction so I've probably not helped myself in the past and I'm more determined to do that now. Just looking for a bit more of a nudge
Hi! I apparently have a high sex drive for a woman, so I can relate a bit to your situation. No therapy on that topic for me but I survived childhood trauma, which I am sure was a trigger for my obsessiveness and compulsive nature. I am not a therapist by any means and wish you all the best on your journey. My journey finding a way to funnel my energies to the positive always. Seems to help most of the time.
I am not an expert. If you are hypersexual, then that's probably okay. Some people have higher sex drives. If these compulsions or addictions are causing you to waste money, jeopardizing your employment or existing relationships, or causing you to waste too much time so that you turn down people who seek to socialize in a healthy way, then it's problematic. I'm finding that a lot of therapists aren't very good in a lot of areas. Sometimes even the areas they say they specialize in. I'm sorry you didn't find much success or weren't satisfied with the therapy you have had. I know what that's like.
In my own case, with porn addiction, it turned out I was bi without realizing it. I was burning the candle at both ends (fantasizing about attractive women with men I fancied too), which is why it was such a strong compulsion. I don't know. I've found it's lessened a lot through understanding myself more. I'm barely interested in porn now, but do enjoy fantasizing about myself with men and women. Perhaps you need to work something out, too, in order to understand what deep down is really driving your compulsive behaviour? Is it like a maddening clamp around your brain that is released when you give in? That's what mine felt like, and I don't really experience it anymore at all.
