So I'm separating from my husband and divorcing. He's all over the place. He's either crying or hates me. I've been out of work and literally not one dollar to my name...I accept I got myself in this spot, relying on my husband and I'll have to learn the lessons to never be put in this position again. Today, I asked my mom if I could sleep at my parents place for two nights while I get my place ready with my relatives. She said, "Well, your dad is on vacation and you can be loud. You ain't quiet. I don't think it would be very comfortable for him." I damn nearly started crying. My parents have always told me "your too this or you're too that." Usually, it's that I make them uncomfortable because I'm loud and laugh too loudly or something. Their daughter is going through the hardest time in her life. Ending a marriage, no job, panic and anxiety (last week had to circle around the hospital for 30 minutes so I could calm down and not think I was dying). Telling me that I'd make them uncomfortable brought back flashbacks of when as a small kid, they'd kick me out of bed and just cuddle with my brother. I made them uncomfortable my taking up room in their bed. I'd slink off crying to myself and weep softly so they couldn't hear me. Later, I grew up and learned to cry in the shower, never bringing attention to myself. I don't know how to feel about this. They aren't responsible for me. I'm 35 and have made my choices. I guess I'd hope I'd treat my kid (I don't have any) better than this.