Hello emptyclosets, haven't been here in a while. I'll keep it short. I'm one month in a relationship with a girl I adore. We've known each other for some years, but we only got close recently which quickly led to a relationship. I think I love her and I've felt this for a while, but at first I didn't want to say it because it felt too early and I didn't want to scare her off. Last night she told me she loves me and I almost started crying because I've never felt what and how I feel for her and I was overwhelmed with emotion. I wanted to say it too, I really did and I still want to, but part of me is now scared that, if I do, what if my feelings disappear? What if I'd just jinx it if I told her I love her now? I'm terrified of that outcome and I'm not sure how to cope with it.
Hey Redstatic, that's wonderful! My advice would be to be brave. I know this stage of a relationship is kinda scary and you're probably going into this relationship as a man for the first time, which makes it even more overwhelming. But by saying the words 'I love you', she has opened her door. Step through it, be brave. Tell her how you're feeling. If you love her but you're scared of having your heart broken say it! Vulnerability in men (indeed, in anybody) is attractive. And don't worry about it being 'too soon'. My late partner and I told each other we loved each other two weeks in, on our fourth date! Good luck, Red. Do let us know how it goes! Beth x
i'd suggest you copy what you wrote here and give that to her. Intimacy is about openness and vulnerability with another person, it can be scary to be vulnerable, but it is also wonderful... especially since she was brave and took the first step and told you she loves you.
Hey I know it can be scary but I don’t think saying it will jinx your relationship, what would be more of a shame (although unlikely at this early stage) is that she has said it to you but is left wondering if you don’t feel the same way. I echo the comments above out being brave. The most likely way a relationship will work is if you are open and honest with her.
