I am a 51 year old male. I have been in the closet since I was in the 7th grade (this was when I started having sex with men). I have been living a lie for most of my life. I have been married to a woman for twenty years. She suspects that I am gay but, I have not admitted it. I need to know how to approach the subject. I know that I am going to lose friends and maybe even some family. But, the stress is getting to be too much. We have 4 beautiful children and my parents are not well, healthwise. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.