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Recommendations on Sex Toys

Discussion in 'Physical & Sexual Health' started by Mlh88, Nov 14, 2022.

  1. Mlh88

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    Hi all,

    Does anyone have any recommendations for toys for a beginner? Never have bottomed before (or even used a finger for that matter), and didn’t think I’d ever be interested in a sex toy but I’ve become kind of curious as of recent. Do you have recommendations for good ones that aren’t crazy expensive and that will ease me into it, and also any tips for using a toy for the first time (as like I said, that would be the first time anything has been up there period). Thanks.
     
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    For tips:

    * For anything anal, lube is a must (and a lot of it lol). Silicone based lubes are thicker and imho better, but harder to wash off. Use whatever type of lube you want, but keep in mind certain types of lubes break down materials in certain condom/toy types.

    * I'd recommend a toy that is realistically sized or smaller. Once you feel good with that and if you want to, you can buy something bigger. I'm assuming most toys have a flared base; anything without a flared base you're risking having an embarrassing accident lol.

    *Start off with fingers or a tiny portion of the toy just to get used to used to the feeling of things :slight_smile:
     
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    Agreed with the lube comment, it is your butt and your toy's best friend.

    I always recommend staying away from the "jelly" type toys. Look for medical grade silicon or pyrex/glass and labeled for anal use or at least something with a larger base so the toy does not get completely inserted. Considering their intended use, spend a little more and get a nicer toy. I can't remember the exact price but I have a very nice pyrex butt plug and it was under $30. I have seen a few stainless steel plugs for around the $25. The vibrating toys can get really pricey.

    As also mentioned keep to smaller sized or beginner sized toy. There are actual beginner anal toy sets from a few companies. Those would be my suggestions to start looking for a toy, and the nice thing about toys is in a relationship they are fun to use with your partner.
     
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    Hey guys, thanks to both for your suggestions. While it seems slightly intimidating haha, I think the best thing for me to do may be to just go to the store and look for the ones you’ve suggested and see if there’s some beginner ones. I’ve been talking to a guy that I’m considering going to the next level with, and although he is aware of my inexperience with bottoming, I thought it might be good to practice a bit with a toy so I’d be slightly more ready and hopefully relaxed for my bedroom experience with him.
     
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    See if he wants to go with you to get one. It could be awkward af but if you did it, it would also be super brave! I like the suggestion of pyrex ones or anything easy to clean and of course with a flange so it doesn't get sucked in. I had a synthetic of some kind from amazon, got anal lube there too lol. The inside shrunk over time or maybe the outside covering expanded? It was decent for a few years before that happened and then I chucked it, wrapped in a bag, at a disgusting petrol station rubbish bin, that no one would ever put their hand into lol. Try your finger with a glove and lube, try pinching off a loaf and bearing down to see how you open up to slide in w/o pain. It should not hurt tho some think it's normal to hurt and tell others that. You also have to consider scheduling playtime after a good dump so it's clean inside. Have fun!
     
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    A pulsating butt plug is my personal fave. It has a tiny, jelly-like texture to it. I've got it here. I'd start with something along those lines. My most recent purchase was a glass wand. It may be heated or chilled. I've just had it for a few weeks, so I've only used it once, but so far, so good.
    In terms of porn, I'd recommend starting with a toy. My husband and I watch it on occasion (not often because we have two children), but I didn't think I'd like it at first. I don't mind it as long as it has some form of "story" to it. I hope this was helpful. Best wishes and have fun!
     
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