Reasons/Excuses why NOT to come out of that closet!

Fear of being judged, depending on who I choose to be in the future (if I decide to transition or not).

 

I don't want to be a disappointment to my family, to be the topic of people's conversations, to be bullied or treated unfairly just because of my sexuality. I just want people to treat me like they've treated me in the past, but that won't happen, I'm sure.

 

I absolutely hate being vulnerable.

 

My parents will hate themselves, think it's their fault, that their failures (they think homosexuality is a sin). Fear that my sister won't let me see my niece and nephews. Fear that my friendships will change.

 

Fear of rejection. :bang: :tears:

 

The fear and omg, the closet is so cosy

 

just not wanting people to look at me differently. i guess i dont want to deal with the questions and stereotypes or to have my relationships with family and friends change. (&&&)

 

This is a tough question...... The majority of my surroundings are married people with young families and I worry that my young kids would have a hard time and that we wouldn't be as accepted into the social circle we are in.....

On a more selfish level, i would worry that i would be the topic of others conversations, i worry that i would become a little paranoid....

 

No particular need to.

 

I was the only son in my family, there's going to be no one to pass on the family name if I come out as gay. Also the fact that my university (which is separated into 7 colleges) many of those colleges are catholic and are homophobic. That's why the people i've come out to all don't go to school with me.

 

this. i hated it until i got comfortable with myself.

 

My dad would beat me...and my mom would be depressed. I lost a great guy because I couldn't come out and he didn't want to date in secret.

 

at present i have no pressing need to come out of the closet as i'm in a committed, long-term relationship with my partner who is of the opposite sex. i have come out of the closet to him and a few online friends, but beyond that there is no need at this point. also, i'm fortunate enough to live in a foreign country so my family only knows whatever i decide to tell them over the phone.

that aside, i honestly don't think it's anyone's business who i'm attracted to and i don't feel like i need anyone's approval, including society's.

on the other hand, if for some reason my current relationship ended and i ended up in a relationship with the same sex, i wouldn't try to hide it from anyone but my family, for religious reasons.

 

Because I have seen that people's treatment of gays who came out eventually after a long time of denial and those who were already obviously gay from the very start is different.

 

I really worry that it'll suddenly define me to people I know. I notice sometimes when friends or family talk about someone who's gay, the person's sexual orientation always seems to be made a point of no matter how irrelevant it is to the subject. It seems like its always on top of their mind and that it influences how they talk about the person.

I feel like now people think of me as me, and if I were to tell them I was bisexual, it'd become like this weird characteristic that they'd always think about with me and that anything I did or said would be interpreted with that in mind.

I'm most worrisome about this when it comes to male friends. Not my closest friends, but others in my past have made semi-homophobic comments (not hateful). And I've gotten the clear impression that if they had a guy friend who was also attracted to guys, they would not at all feel comfortable.

I guess that's my main reason... I just don't want to be known by it, or have it talked about by others. It would make me feel extremely uncomfortable.

 

I don't want people to think I'm being frivolous and so want to wait until I've got into transition and look undeniably feminine.

If people where I live find out I'm transgender I'll lose my house.

People at work give me a hard time already, I know how they speak badly of the few gay and lesbian workers there and they don't like how I defend those people. Some of the things they say are quite cruel, and I imagine being target numero uno isn't going to be a very nice experience, especially since another job prospect would be really hard to find.

I went to school in this town and everyone here my own age ridicules and despises me to the point where they shout insults and throw things at me as I walk down the street. There was once a time they caught up to me and beat the ever living daylights out of me with baseball bats. If I come out I could even be killed.