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Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by ItisI, Oct 9, 2020.

  1. ItisI

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    Hello everyone I´m new here and I have yet to find out how it all works so if I take some to reply it´ll be because of this.

    So I´ll cut straight to the point, for as long as I´ve watched porn I´ve masturbated to both videos of men and women. I used to think I was bi but after some gaslighting from my mom (the usual for me) I stopped thinking about it and I´ve only managed to face that skeleton in my closet (heh) now. Is there any other thing apart from me liking men that would explain these homoerotic fantasies? Honestly, IRL I do not feel the same attraction towards men that I feel for women but this doubt still lingers and I´m dying to solve it. My family is not accepting of this so coming out to them is not possible. Thanks, all.
     
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    Welcome!

    So sorry to hear about your family not accepting, I know exactly how that feels as mine are highly homophobic too...
    Thank goodness for a safe space like this!
     
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    Hi there and welcome to the community! Glad you have decided to join. EC is a safe space that will allow you to explore more your feelings, thoughts. You might find reading some of members' experiences in the various sub-forums helpful as well.
     
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    Hi there, and welcome. I'm also new to this space. Just wanted to say that as I've browsed some threads I noticed some people commenting, basically, "porn is not a great barometer for judging your sexual identity" or something to that effect and it rang true to me. I mean, it probably DOES mean *something* that men in porn/gay porn turns you on (as it does me, along with women/straight porn)...but it's probably not sufficient as any kind of authentic, deeper input leading to any self-insight. I mean, it's porn. Surely sexual orientation goes a bit deeper. :slight_smile: Here's hoping you find ways to work that out and I trust this forum can be a help.