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Questioning Sexuality

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by HorizonSea, Feb 1, 2019.

  1. HorizonSea

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    Am I a lesbian?


    • Don’t want to have sex with men

    • Feel safer with women than men (this could be emotionally attracted)

    • Sometimes I get aroused when I see women's bodies
    I've been thinking about when I was in high school and I wonder if this was a sign:

    I liked seeing the girl basketball team practice during P.E. for different reasons:

    1. Was I attracted to them back then?

    2. I liked seeing them practice because I didn't want to do anything in P.E. (Example. Exercising )
    Also, I find men attractive, but I don't think I want to have sex with them.
     
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    Hey it's really tough for anyone else to say for sure what you are.
    Looking at what you have written I'd say that there is definitely a chance. Rather than looking at it like guys or girls I would just look at them individually. It sounds to me like if you just considered girls that there is some attraction to them and probably the more you explore that and accept it the stronger it will be.
     
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    Hello
    You may be bisexual. Please don't push yourself all the way to the lesbian side too soon. I'm a guy but have had relationships with both sexes. That's the only way to know for sure is to experiment. It's your sexuality and it can take us years to decide where we sit. Enjoy having some safe fun...
     
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    Sexuality is really seen as a spectrum and it doesn't have to be an either or. You can fall somewhere in the middle or not even on the spectrum at all. By the sounds of what you're explaining, I agree with the above and say you may fall somewhere on the bi part of the spectrum. But even if you are you can have a preference to one sex or the other. I'm a bisexual woman and have about as many ex boyfriends as I do ex girlfriends. I personally lean towards like women more. Whereas my wife, who's also bisexual, would lean more towards men (She's had more ex boyfriends the ex girlfriends).

    I personally go by the philosophy of do what/who you like as long as no one gets hurt in the process because you only have one life to try everything and figure out what you like.
     
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    Thank you for your advice!
     
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    I'm not interested in having sex with men or women, but when I think about my future:

    When I think about waking up in bed, I envision a woman next to me and taking her in my arms or vice versa. ( I just don't see that with a man )

    When I see lesbian couples online, I see that as my future and I want to have children with a woman.
     
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    I think it's good that you have that clarity.
     
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    Maybe you're bisexual? Who knows. Either way, I think being comfortable with yourself is the most comfortable thing. Even if you do find men attractive, you're probably not 100% gay. You don't sound 100% straight either, and that's fine. Have you ever dated men or women?
     
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