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Questioning my sexual orientation as a guy

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by BRAD1894, Oct 6, 2016.

  1. BRAD1894

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    Me questioning sexual orientation.

    Hi, guys I am brad and I am new to this site. I would like to discuss my sexual orientation if we can, but first let me tell you a little about myself. I am in my early 20's and consider myself bi-curious to a certain extent, but here is the tricky part and please don't judge me. I am still a virgin and yes I have had no sexual experiences besides self pleasure.

    When I was in my teens I always considered myself heterosexual because I have always been attractive to the opposite sex, but when I reached about 19 I began experimentation in anal play and found myself drawn to it and even more to this day. I know just because you like prostate play doesn't make you gay from what I have read online but my issues go deeper than this. I always found myself drawn to the female form and when I turned 20 or 21 I found myself drawn more to transgender women with dicks and frankly I still love them to this day. I have watched gay porn in the past but never found myself turned on by it or even attractive to it, but when watching straight or transgender porn I am truly aroused.

    I remember reading an article along time ago and it was talking about bisexuality and that just because you are both ways doesn't mean you will sleep with everything in sight. At the moment I read about it I starting thinking about myself and if I have had choice I would sleep with a guy of my own choosing.

    I tend to love dick pics and especially the female form but I have been questioning my gender for sometime. I really started questioning myself when I read a transgender blog and her talking about her struggles as a men and her fight become her true self.

    My plan was to message her and maybe try to hit on, but it turned out I ended up finding a little about myself in the process. This is one of the times I started to question myself once again but later I remembered watching a video on CD and how he stopped playing dress up and started to embrace his true self. This when I realized I never had a problem with my own body as some do. I always believed I was born a male this is what God intended me too be and plus the majority of girls are into guys anyway. I feel like if I was to changed myself I would feel a cloud of guilt come over me anyway.


    I ended up at a another dating site well maybe not a dating site but I ended up again reading about certain profile and his bio. He ended up talking about how he became curious and started to experiment with different genders. He went on to talk about his relationships with different men and his love for female women and transgender women of all sorts. This article truly inspired to want to explore my sexual cravings as well. I still don't find myself drawn to men but if it was the right guy and circumstances I would definitely do it.

    I recently been talking to a fem guy online and enjoy talking to him at certain times but I have nothing against no one. We usually talk about sex, but he lives in another state so it's really just talking and looking at naughty pics he sends to me.

    I keep on questioning my sexual orientation to this day and find my self drawn to the female form more than anything else and as for men I am very picky. What do you guys think my orientation is or could you give me some advice?
    And could you relate?
     
  2. EverDeer

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    Porn has nothing to do with orientation. There are straight men who watch gay porn due to the fact that the actions are often more realistic, many of the women in porn are often "cut and paste". There have been many studies about how people of all orientations almost equally enjoy many different types of porn, often due to the fact that you can substitute characters / dissociate in your mind and imagine one of the other characters in the porn being another gender, etc. Also, trans women are women. By my logic, you're attracted them because they are women, not because they have a vagina but because of how they look, act, and are hormonally.

    As for your questioning, behavior and attraction are two different things also. Some people will have sexual experiences with other people but find to not be attracted to them. Some asexual people have sex drives and enjoy sex, but aren't attracted to those they have sex with.
     
  3. Linus

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    I think you could be bi. However there are many different ways to interpret "Bi." The fact is, almost no one's sexual preferences will line up exactly. Then again, you could be an experimenting heterosexual. Nothing wrong with that. Let me know if I'm hearing you right. It sounds like you might be attracted to femininity, if not the female body? If so, then you're not alone there. I've read numerous posts on this website stating experiences of being attracted to femininity, masculinity, androgynous people, etc.

    If you know the kind of person you like then do you need a specific label for it? Some people like labels, others don't. If you're looking for labels you can look at a long list of names such as this: https://ageofshitlords.com/complete-list-of-all-tumblr-sexualities-so-far/

    I don't know how accurate these labels are, but they might help some people to identify, for those who like to use labels. (Not all labels are scientifically researched sexualities, but they're still nice to have around.)

    If you don't like using labels, then be confident! Only you can know the kind of person who does it for you. :slight_smile:

    Hope this helps.