Questioning my gender identity. Might be non-binary.

I am young adult in the USA living with my parents. I was assigned male at birth, but I am at present questioning my gender identity. I want to make sure I know for sure I am non-binary or am just a feminine cis man.
I've always been a very sensitive person, but something about calling and referring to myself as a man doesn't feel quite right. Hard to tell if I have a legitimate non cis identity or I simply convinced myself of something.
When I was younger, I remember feeling a little funny in a negative way when I began going through puberty and saw hair growing on my legs. I also sometimes sleep in a female spaghetti strap tank top when I have the house to myself, which I am growing to like, and like having a beardless face.
However, I don't really feel the sense that I am a woman. While I sometimes think about what it would be like to be a woman, my current desire at present is to simply have a clean face, no body hair, and maybe start styling myself in a black fedora, earrings, and lipstick. I would love to try out a more androgynous look with some darker clothing, but I cannot do it unless I know for certain that non-binary is the gender identity that suits me.
I have told about my questioning to my older sister, some cousins, and a little bit to my mother. However, I have a short tempered father and older brother who have a "Blame the Democrats" mentality and religiously watch Fox News and sometimes Newsmax, and my father angrily referred a trans woman being "a man" while listening to conservative radio. I am fearful of coming out, as I might either be judged or be bombarded with questions, "look at both sides" lectures, or being expected to watch some video about why transgenderism and non-binary identity are "not real" or how "binary gender is 'simply science'". I am frightened of my father sometimes, and my mother can be dismissive when I express concern or discomfort. My older sister also lives in another state, while my brothers lives locally.
Any advice, experiences, or kind words appreciated. I want to figure my identity out and do it right.