Question for gender non-comforming people...

1. I don't think so. Strangers are less likely to flirt with you, in fact, because... you look kind of like a guy so unattractive in their opinion. Men's clothes tend to be baggier as well, and cover up more so another minus to sexiness. Looking with the corner of the eye, people are likely to think you're a man.

Or rather, it depends where you live.

2. Do what feels most natural to you, be yourself. Being tough is considered masculine, but if you identify as a masculine woman, rather think what it means for you, what are the traits you identify with. Don't force yourself into spmething you're not. It's all about being yourself and finding comfort with you gender / expression.

3. No, it's actually a bery good reason, and a reason a lot of people who dress this way have.

Do it!

 

Hi Nightdream!
I'd recommend to give a f**** on gender-norms, gender-roles etc. So, dress as you like to! I also think, that the cool styles, clothes, haircuts are made for men. I also prefer that style without ever feeling male or wanting to be male. You should not be scared. I think it's much more challenging for guys to wear a skirt than for girls to wear guys-clothes. In many parts of the world women wear jeans, sneakers, tshirts, caps etc.

You'll see if your clothes fit your personality when you look in the mirror. It's all about style matching your taste.

I sometimes get harassed because people assume I'm lesbian. You wrote you look female, so people might just think, that you're a lady with a cool style. But no...hang on... who cares what people think..? Dress the way you enjoy it and then walk out, it will be good and it will feel good!

To 3.: no, of course there's nothing bad about it. It's just clothes, looks, it's about your taste - not a gender- or sexuality-statement.

Wear whatever you like, I'm sure you'll be looking very good and don't care too much about other peoples thoughts.

 

1) Absolutely not. People don't rape others depending on what they're wearing. They do it because they're disgusting human beings. Doubt it would matter if you're wearing a dress or a suit. We're actually lucky, being AFAB, we get a lot less abuse crossdressing and experimenting with gender expression than those AMAB. Just take it easy. Throw in a few shirts, a couple jeans from the men's section and just bring more items in a little at a time. It'll be less of a big change and easier for others to get used to it.

2) People wear whatever they want. You don't have to coordinate clothes to personality. You don't see all the very feminine gay guys in dresses and skirts just because they're camp, do you? If you're comfortable in masculine clothing then you wear it. More masculine clothing can look extremely attractive on some girls, just depends on the person. But no matter, it's whatever you want your style to be and whether you'll be comfortable in it. That's the important thing.

3) Nope. That doesn't sound bad at all. In fact I thought that was the main reason people started wearing the clothing they wanted. Even before coming out as trans I wore guys clothing just because I thought it looked better on me and I was more comfortable in it.

It sounds like you're a lot more focused on what others think and whether they'll be happy/care about the clothes that you wear. We can't always do things with others as our main focus. You have to think about yourself and what's best for you.