Don't even know where to start. Basically, I'm pretty sure I'm straight. But like the other day I was talking with a gay friend and some of the stuff he said just sort of chimed a bell in me and made me wonder. (ive copied a bit from my intro post) Like in this day and age, at least where i'm from it's not even a big deal if someone isn't straight but like it was when we were 15/16/17 everyone would realise what they are and it's just not a big deal, but maybe that's just from my point of view. Like in our friend group there's gays and lesbians and like a trans guy and we just don't care like it's not even thought of. So like this weekend at a house party once everyone was settling down for the night, I was chatting with my friend who was gay and we talking about how its weird that like we were we lounging around on each other like but how you wouldn't see 2 straight guys do the same. Like he was resting his head on my lap and stroking my leg and it wasn't like flirty or anything other than 2 mates being comfortable with other but we were just saying how if he was straight that's not even possible because the label itself is like a barrier with how close 2 people can get. And I asked him how he knew he was gay and he said there wasn't really a moment he was like oh no im gay he said he just always thought he was straight because that what everyone was until he was like 12/13, and he knew he liked boys but didn't know that was gay or he wasn't straight. And then one day a boy who was out kissed him and started asking him like do you like girls and he was like 'I don't know not really' and they spoke and that was like his realisation of ohhh im not straight but he said it wasn't like this massive revelation just like someone telling you the name of something you already understand. It was just when he was on about 'knowing girls are attractive but not finding them attractive' and 'knowing boys were attractive and actually finding them attractive' but it took someone to make him think about because he was just on like auto pilot of 'being straight'. And I know I like girls and I've had girlfriends and I definitely get off over girls but just made me think like do I like guys too? Because like when he was talking about it and I could see him like laid on me I think I liked that he was stroking my leg and we were being like a bit more intimate than I am with my straight friends. And I know when guys are attractive or like good looking but I don't know if I FIND them attractive. And I don't know how to like test the theory I guess. A part of me really doesn't care. Like if it was as easy to say to someone, I've never been with a guy, I wanna try it to be sure and it was like yeah ok, no big deal then i'd just do that I guess. But even with my open minded friends its still like YOU'RE GAY NOW?! or something. Like how can I find out without causing drama I guess. This is super long. Sorry. TL;DR A gay friends story about realising he was gay made me wonder if I could be bi or something. I just don't know how I can be sure if I am.