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  1. Ophelia

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    I don't know if that's true though. I spent so much energy bottling it all up. I've been mostly healthy. And the main thing is, it would definitely hurt my husband. I mean, not if I randomly ran into her, but I'm afraid of what he might think if I sought her out.

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    On second thought, maybe I'm more worried about me,
     
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    tell us more
     
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    What do you mean?
     
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    you said you are more worried about you? I don't quite understand
     
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    Oh, I meant how I would deal with seeing her. It took a really long time to get over her. And I like my life, and I love my husband so much. And oddly, since I told him all this we've been even closer. I just worry because like I said I don't have the best coping skills. But actually, weirdly talking about it here has me breathing a little easier. And I'm not crying anymore. But I am hungry now. Lol. I think I might be an emotional eater.
     
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    A lot of us are emotional eaters, I'd think. :slight_smile:

    Ophelia - this is the best coping I know, to talk things over with people who care. And you know what?

    I'm still smiling. :slight_smile:

    Ashley is still smiling. :slight_smile:

    And, I think you might even be able to smile? :slight_smile:

    You haven't hurt us. I think you are at least starting to feel better. This is why you need friends, Honey. (*hug*)
     
    #46 Starfleet, Sep 30, 2014
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    I am smiling.
     
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    Wow...I just wanna hold you n let you cry. That's a lot to carry for so long. I don't have any advice as I've never been where you're at, however if I were L, who still cares for you a great deal given she named her daughter your secret name, I'd want to know that you're OK and happy. Maybe write her a letter? Again I stress I'm no expert in this stuff.
     
    #48 NatWheeled, Sep 30, 2014
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    I didn't expect that.

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    I just don't know, but i really appreciate your input and everyone's support.

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    I thought those were things you had to earn here.
     
    #49 Ophelia, Sep 30, 2014
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    She named her child after you, Ophellia. She cares about you. And about hiding it... I'm sure this isn't a story you like to recall all that much. It seems like a lot of painful memories. I doubt you like bringing it up all that much. Why would she? Maybe don't seek her out as a girlfriend, but just a friend. if you decide to seek her out at all that is.
     
    #50 AsheTheHuman, Sep 30, 2014
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    It's actually kind of funny, but since my husband and I are night owls anyway, we've only been going to the 24 hour stores in that area in the middle of the night so that I don't run into her. My idea, not his. He thinks that if she ever loved me she'd be happy for me now.
     
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    Oh Sweetie, you don't earn friends. (*hug*) just be with them, share with them, offer a hug

    that's friends
     
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    Love is never to be earned but freely given, whether its the love of friends or lovers or peers.
     
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    I'm not sure exactly what you're referring to here, but after tis thread you've earned just as much as anyone else.(*hug*)<3
     
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    [/QUOTE]
    It seems like a lot of painful memories. I doubt you like bringing it up all that much. Why would she? Maybe don't seek her out as a girlfriend, but just a friend. if you decide to seek her out at all that is.[/QUOTE]

    You mean just like she was anyone else from high school? Maybe.

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    What did I do wrong with the quote thing there?

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    (*hug*)

    For everyone.


    I think maybe I'm just not that used to making friends. Don't be offended please.
     
    #55 Ophelia, Sep 30, 2014
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    I think a letter is a good idea, too.

    Ophelia, I want you to think about this: you took a chance, bared your soul, asked for help, made some friends. :slight_smile:

    Maybe Somepony new will join, that is scared and hurting, that needs help. Then they'll see this thread, and know that they'll *get* help.

    And even if you're offline, you will have helped Somepony Else get the help *they* need. :slight_smile:
     
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    You mean just like she was anyone else from high school? Maybe.

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    What did I do wrong with the quote thing there?[/QUOTE]

    Exactly. I'll know it'd be a bit more difficult, but I think it'd be worth it for both of you.
    P.S. you put an extra quote close tag right after the quote beginning tag.
     
    #57 AsheTheHuman, Sep 30, 2014
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    Ok, thanks. This is the first message board I've ever posted on, so I'm still learning the mechanics and stuff.
     
    #58 Ophelia, Sep 30, 2014
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    Yeah sure. Of course, I manage to mess up with the quotes trying to help you learn how they work XD Ah, well. Feeling better?
     
    #59 AsheTheHuman, Sep 30, 2014
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    I don't know if I want to do the whole letter thing to her again. Letters were bad in our past, also, what if her husband sees it first?

    Do you really think this might help someone else?

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    I am. And a little bit silly for trying to leave the boards. Sorry about that.
     
    #60 Ophelia, Sep 30, 2014
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