Please tell me how to cope

Thanks Laney I try to remember that but its still hard I cry at the smallest things..and in sensitive to begin with but it makes me feel like I'm losing my mind at times. I know in my hard I'm a good person and I try to always be kind to others but I have been used and railroaded so many times.

 

Indeed what we go through as we become in touch with our true sexuality is not easy. We did not arbitrarily choose this path. Being on this path doesn’t make us evil. You and all of us are good people struggling with the fact that our sexuality isn’t what we thought. We didn’t choose this path, however it’s one we must follow in order to be our authentic self. Don’t beat yourself up, you are and always have been a good person worthy of praise trying in a complicated world to find the true North of your life for you. Please don’t underrate or denigrate yourself.

 

Hey. In a sense, I've been where you are. Where the need to be with a man was so compelling I felt like I would need to change my life to accommodate that. For some, based on the responses above, that is what they needed to do.

I, too, became distracted and disinterested in women similar to what you are feeling. My wife gave me the chance to experience what I felt I was missing and now I'm just not as driven as I was. Don't get me wrong....I have a BF now and we have a very passionate and very satisfying thing going on. TBH, the sex I had last night with him was the best sex I have ever experienced. But, I wouldn't trade it for what I have with my wife and the depths of those feelings and that intimacy.

It's funny how I hear how others are now disgusted by opposite sex intimacy once they experienced same sex intimacy and I am the opposite. That embracing my same sex desires has increased my lust for opposite sex intimacy too. I am now capable of being more vulnerable and open.

I don't know if this is possible for you to experience too? I wish there was some test for bisexual. But, I'm afraid there isn't.

I'm not intending to confuse what you are feeling now. Only to add that maybe you are not a totally different person or undergoing some sort of personality change. Maybe what you feel and have felt for your husband is real and you have not been fooling yourself. You just need to experience more of yourself?

This doesn't make it easier to come to a solution on how to move forward for you. But, for me at least, it has been important to understand that my life was not a lie.