I’m a woman married to a man for 20 years (2 kids). Our marriage has suffered from poor communication and intimacy for years, and in the last year or so I’ve come to realize my interest in women is part of (not all of) the problem. I shared this with my husband, and have tried to get him to realize, through talking and therapy, that it can’t work going forward. He’s adamant that it can if we just “work on it” - he is strongly against disrupting our family life and living arrangements, and says this family is all he ever wanted (he is a quiet, passive person, and this is his comfort zone). I’m paralyzed with guilt, and we mostly just avoid talking about it now (esp since we are all home together in covid lockdown and cant get space). All advice I get is “just rip off the bandaid,” but clearly I haven’t been able to. Any advice?