Saw this on another place and thought it was interesting. Did your parents ask if you're top or bottom? Or do you think they assume you're top, bottom, or verse? My parents never asked, thank God. They probably think I'm verse with guys.
I don't think my parents want to know (I'm verse, for the record...Mom and Dad, if you're reading this, hi!)
I don’t think my parents have ever given it’any thought, but in case anyone else wants to know I’m a bottom
Lol they haven’t asked and I’m really glad about that. I have no idea what they might guess. I’m mostly a bottom, just Incase I hadn’t given enough clues to that on here.
My mom assumed I must be a bottom because I'm a smaller guy. She didn't use those words but she kept telling me how immoral and dangerous it is to want to be sodomized while insulting me over it. Two friends have thought that too. It's actually pretty annoying, being small doesn't automatically mean I have to be the submissive one. I'm verse but have a topping preference.
The only person to ever ask me irl is one of my friends who happens to be bi. I'm pretty sure my mom assumes that I'd be a top because I'm not feminine at all but as the old phrase goes, looks can be deceiving (I'm mostly a bottom).
One of my friends was talking to his mom about his relationship, and she was asking "Which one of you is the more masculine one?" And he said "Well, we're both pretty masculine." And she said "Yes, but which one of you is the more masculine one". The pattern repeated 3 or 4 times, and finally he was like "So are you asking which one of us takes it up the butt?" And she was horrified but also... that's exactly what she was asking. So he was like "We both do." And that confused the hell out of her.
To answer the question posed in this thread: I'm not out to anyone in my family; however, if I ever do come out, I doubt this question will come up. Past that, though, my immediate reaction to hearing about parents who ask about sexual roles is that it's none of their f--ing business. I also wonder how parents who do ask this question would feel and react if their child asked them questions touching upon their sex lives.
I honestly can't imagine that my parents even wondered--any more than I sit around wondering what positions they enjoyed. They certainly never asked.
Right, for example, if my mom has a long history of pegging my dad, that’s a secret they can take to their grave. I never need to know about it
I'm fairly sure they wondered, but my parents never asked, even in a coded way. I worked with a few guys who wondered if I was the "woman" in a relationship (code for do I like to be fucked). I made sure they regretted ever asking.