I'd consider myself for the most part gay, and my boyfriend is okay with an open relationship on my part, but I have no sexual drive for any other men than him. I don't like gay porn either. Is this normal? All my male friends (who don't know about me or my boyfriend) who have girlfriends are always talking about all the girls theyd like to sleep with. Is it unusual that I don't have the urge to be with anyone else?
I don’t think so, when I am with someone that’s all I want, no porn, no wandering eyes. I dunno that’s just me though.
well... it's love. ❤ your boyfriend is lucky that you only have eyes for him. take care of what you have with him, and i hope it develops more and you can be together openly.
Statistically speaking, this is unusual. Most people have some thoughts of "That person is hot" or "if I was single then def" or "here is my hall pass list" type of thing. It doesn't mean that you love him any less or more, but for some reason you just don't have the desire to sleep with anyone else. While it may be unusual, its not wrong or bad at all. Just keep that in mind if your boyfriend does have does feelings for other people. Its not about how much he loves you, but a lot of people those desires remain whether or not they love someone.
I feel like the last paragraph you wrote is basically me. Whether I’m in a relationship or not, I’ve always had my eyes wander to someone that I found super attractive. To op: it’s not a bad thing, though. Maybe that’s just how your brain works.
I've always said (my gay friends can attest) that humans aren't meant to be monogamous. They just aren't. Of course this is my (strong) opinion. We use terms like 'boyfriend', 'girlfriend', 'husband', 'wife', 'marriage' to stay in our boundaries, over time people just suppress the feelings and they become 'devoted' to one another, if they're in a relationship. So I'm not surprised if people find other people attractive to look at. I know for a fact that I won't stop finding random billboard models or the next shirtless actor in a film hot. It's just the way we are. Or at least, the way I am lol.
Having been in different types of relationships and gone through different development stages myself, where now I am in a monogamous relationship with a guy whom satisfies me both emotionally and sexually, I believe your at a unique stage in life which others may never rise to. If you have confidence in yourself and confidence in your relationship with love for your partner, where he makes you feel safe and secure, your desire to only want your partner is admirable and noble! Don’t doubt it because of what conventional wisdom might suggest nor because of statistics. Be happy being yourself!
