Hi Forum, First time posting here. Glad I found you! I am a mother of 4 kids. My youngest is 18 and is gay. He came out to us 1 year ago. We had not known he was was gay before he came out to us, but after the initial deep breath, both his father and I were accepting and really it hasn't changed anything at home. His older sister who is 21 has recently started going out with a "secret friend". We know she goes out, and that she chooses not to tell us who this is. Maybe she is lesbian. Maybe she is not, and just doesn't want to share right now. But here's my question: If she is also gay, might it be harder for her to come out to us since she knows we already have one gay kid? She knows/sees that we accept all sorts and love all sorts - but I want her to know that she doesn't have to hold up the hetero side of the family. On the other hand, I want her to do her own process and decide on her own where her preferences are and who she is. My instinct is to just keep showing in general that we are an accepting and loving family and we are good with anything that makes our kid/s happy. But should I be more direct with her? Ask her? Just looking for your ideas, as folks who are there/been there/ etc. Thanks!