Now moved out marital home...

Wow Rade, Big Step! Congrats!. I've read some of your history and from what I read I can see you were having a difficult time adjusting while she was moving on. I'm so glad your daughter decided to stay over. I'm still undecided about telling mine, also 13. Keep posting as you fully settle in. I wish you the best.

 

Rade, good to hear you’re keeping your head up through all this. I know it’s been tough on you and your family, but I hope things work out well for you. Starting to get some support from your kids sounds like a good start.

 

Congratulations.. So glad for you and that unsettled feeling will go away. Anytime someone moves it takes awhile to relax. Plus when you add the emotions, of your situation. I know when i moved out to my own place, it had been 38-40 years since i had lived on my own. So i understand that feeling well. I've been on my own since this past may, and it's ok that real odd feeling went away pretty quick. You've taking that important step, now give yourself time to relax and get familiar with your new surroundings.

 

Hi Rade,

Wow that’s a huge step! How are you feeling now? Congratulations on making such a big move forward. And take some time to get to know yourself, enjoy your freedom and enjoy the peace .

 

Woohoo! You did it!

Going without your kids is going to be a little weird, lonely and painful. I am SOOOO glad they are happy to be with you and your ex is happy to allow that. I recommend trying some meet up groups and such to develop some hobbies to fill the down time. 3 kids is a big hole to fill when they're gone. This will also help you strengthen who you are for that future someone... and maybe even meet! Enjoy life! I look forward to reading your updates!

 

I think you are being entirely sensible in allowing yourself a bit of space. Leaving the marital home is a big decision to take and it's inevitable that you will feel unsettled and need some time to adjust. Even so, you have your sights fixed on the future and you seem to know how you wish to proceed. Give yourself time and don't try to force anything in the coming weeks. If your feelings ebb and flow a bit, that's fine and it's only to be expected.

I hope you will be able to work things out with your ex wife. She probably feels wounded right now, and like you, needs time to adjust to the changed situation. If you can remain strong and composed it should help.

 

@Rade
I so glad your daughter is so supportive of you.
I hope too that you and your wife can reconcile and remain friends forever.
Best of luck adjusting to your new surroundings.
Hope you do find someone to love and that man loves YOU for who you are!

FooFight54

 

Totally understandable that you want to live and love again and I see nothing wrong with your plans. My only note of caution is to avoid setting timeframes, at this stage. You may find yourself and adjust more quickly than you imagine, but you may also have that ebb and flow of feelings that I mentioned previously. I think it's important to give yourself time and space to deal with anything that arises in the weeks ahead, without any additional pressure.

 

Wow, it is wonderful that you took a huge step to live for you! Like any change in life, it takes time to adjust. I am sure your children will adjust well with you, and am glad your 13 year old is supportive of you. I do not plan on telling my boys, as my 19 year old have made homophobic remarks on more than one occasion. Take it easy, enjoy your space!