im coming here for help from the LGBT community because I thought I had it alll figured out but now I’m not sure! I’m bisexual, in a relationship with a woman I love and care for. I accepted I was bi at 25, and thought hey that’s it done. Years of wondering denial and all the resentment of it. Brilliant finally accepted all is good. In between long term relationships I’ve experimented but I feel there’s now more inside now about my feelings. I’m not questioning if I’m gay. I know I’m bi. But no matter what woman I’ve been with. I’ve always thought about guys a lot. When I met my girlfriend now. I thought that’s it. We are great together. She knows I’m bi. She’s accepted it. We are best friends aswell as partners. Known each other for years. But I still wonder. I still desire men a lot. I question myself. I now feel I need to do more experimenting. Meet guys date guys. But how can I risk this life I’ve built up with my partner over last 5 years?
Do you think that participating in a threesome would be on the table? If your partner knows you're bi, she may not be against experiencing this. If she doesn't want to participate, she may be open to you possibly having sex with a man. If you're want to not just sleep with another man, but also date him you may want to consider either polyamory or an open relationship. Polyamory would be you and your partner dating a third person; inviting them into your preexisting relationship. Now I have done this and I will warn you that it can be difficult when jealously runs wild, but if you're really trusting and close to your partner it could possibly work. You could also have an open relationship, where you and your partner date others individually. This differs from polyamory because you and your partner would be dating different people, not the same person between the two of you. This also requires a lot of trust and open communication. Keep in mind that your partner would need to be fully informed about this and would need to be comfortable. Or you could always just watch some gay porn. Me and my boyfriend are both bisexual and we jerk off to women together all the time, you could share this experience with your partner. I wish you the best of luck!
The threesome idea is a good one if your partner will go along, just be careful to approach the third party idea as a couple. That is, If she backs out, you go too. That can be tricky so be sure to plan ahead. If the threesome thing is not on the table then you must confront how important threesomes are to you. This is after all is not a man versus woman issue with you but both versus only one. Some bisexuals alternate between straight and gay depending on the gender of the object of their desire, but if you are attracted to both men and women at the same time, and you sound like you may be, then you need to be honest about that and upfront about it in your relationships. You don’t have to feel guilty about wanting something different, you just have to find a way to work it out. Chances are she was attracted to you in the first place because you seemed different. That makes sense because different is exciting. So don’t be afraid to propose something new, as long as whatever you propose yo do you do it as a couple.
