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Not sure what I am

Discussion in 'Gender Identity and Expression' started by Girlx, Jun 8, 2022.

  1. Girlx

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    So, a little bit about my gender crisis and what I feel! When I look at guys I think I absolutely want to date that gender, but then I look at women and think the same. But then I look at myself maybe being a trans male ( meaning I want to be male instead of female ) but there are some things I don't want to have to have when either wanting to be male or female. I don't want boobs that I have now, I would rather have a flat chest but then that means I have to be male for that. I don't want the attention that I get from guys, because its to much. All my life I've worn dresses and skirts but recently I've been wearing joggers, leggings and guys stuff. So I think I might be wanting to be trans.. but Idkkkk ahhhh
     
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    Having/wanting a flat chest and wearing masculine clothing aren’t male-only things. There are many gender non-conforming women. I can relate to wanting a flatter chest and often wish I were completely invisible to men, so I understand how you feel! Nowadays I never wear dresses, I don’t shave any of my body hair nor do I wear makeup, and lot of people might assume I’m trying to be a man because of these things, however this is not true. I’m just a woman who doesn’t perform femininity.

    Of course, I have no place to tell you what you are! Only you can do that. I’m just pointing out that being uncomfortable with certain things is quite a common female (and human) experience. Nobody wants men to stare at them in the street. And the way you dress has no relation to your gender — i.e. women can wear trousers and men can wear skirts. Anyone can wear anything. Thinking that certain clothes belong to certain genders is only affirming the old conservative stereotypes.
     
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    Okay. Sorry
     
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    It’s okay! I didn’t mean for that to come across as a criticism or anything
     
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    No problem
     
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    bambibat & Girix.....How you dress, how you present yourself, etc. is entirely up to you. You get to choose what you look like. Just like @Girix said there are a lot of women who don't want a big chest, or in some cases, really don't want a chest at all. It's all up to you. If you want to have a smaller chest, you can wear a binder. In some cases people have had top surgery to completely remove their chest. Of course that usually happens in the case of trans FtM, but it can happen other times as well. As far as you being trans yourself, there is a lot more to it than just not liking your chest. There are some great youtube videos made be FtM youtubers that you could watch to get a better understanding of what being trans FtM means. Here is a list of some that I watch:
    Alex Bertie
    Jammidodger
    Noah Finnce
    Luke Wale
    Sam Collins
    Ty Turner
    Dakota Aspen

    I hope this helps!
    .....David :gay_pride_flag:
     
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    Girlx, sooo many of the cis women I know dress down precisely because of the attention that they'd get from men otherwise (and the fact they find it more comfortable). It's a completely normal part of life as a cis female!
     
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    Thanks all
     
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    Theres no right or wrong way there are many different genders with different body styles take me for instance I am non binary but still would like boobs.
     
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    Boobs, I have them and am happy with them. But boobs or no boobs, it's all good to me, to each his own.