Not sure how to apologize for this one...

So idk what the hell is wrong with me lately but I seem to have lost my ability to be tactful and not be a complete douchebag to my friends.

So I was talking to my straight female friend about how I had found out one of our favourite actors is bisexual and I was really happy about it. It turned into this debate about how she refused to believe it if it wasnt in writing, and how she believed that ANY queer person of celebrity status MUST be vocal for gay rights and they are wasting their celebrity status if they're not doing that.

I tried to explain to her that not everyone wants to be a vocal/political/whatever advocate for gay rights and they just want to live their life in peace but she would have none of it and kept saying things like, "well they are advocates for x, y and z why not this too" and I gave her every example in the book and she just didnt seem to get why some people dont want to broadcast their sexuality.

As nicely as I could, I said the following, "Well you don't get it because you're not queer." in hindsight, i probably should have kept my mouth shut bc after that she got really quiet, told me she wasnt changing her mind and the conversation ended.

We've had debates like this before about various subjects where I display either facts or in this case opinions and it just turns into us talking at each other instead of taking from each other and learning. I know I should not have said what I said, and though i did apologize (ie, "Im really sorry theres no nice way to say this, but..."/"I'm really sorry.") and she seemed okay, something tells me shes probably still pissed. Should I let it be and let her cool off, or should I rephrase myself again?