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Not completely sure

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Lmnop20, Jan 28, 2021.

  1. Lmnop20

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    I am a married 30 year old male who has always been bicurious but now I feel I am bisexual leaning gay. I have never been with another male so I cannot be 100% sure of my gay leaning and have always been attracted to females.

    I find I am now sexually aroused by transgender females with male genitals, crossdressers and fem looking guys, why? Because a feeling of inner desire to get down dirty with them. But I feel I cannot be 100% curtain of that desire though cause it is purely based off pornographic materail and some cybersex instances but I have always had an inner feeling of being aroused by gay sexual material which I spose manifested into this "desire."

    The reason for the bisexual lable is that along with my homosexuality I still had a desire, want, need to be with women because they are just damn attractive and sexy. And for the leaning lable is it feels as though those feelings aren't as strong as they once were compared to these feelings for the sterotypes listed.

    I am not 100% sure what this means for my future which is causing me so much distress because I am married to a women who I do love and care for with a young 6 month old boy who I love dearly and he has a sibling on the way both of who I can't imagine being separated from but I can't seem to put these other feelings aside.

    Any help or feedback would be awesome.
     
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    Hi, and welcome to EC! There are some very helpful long time members here who will provide you with some great help and information. I’m still relatively new on EC myself, yet I wish you all the best!
     
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    Lmnop20.....Hello and a great big LGBTQ+ welcome to Empty Closets! There is a subforum here on EC that is titled "Sexual Orientation". If you post there I think you'll find people who will understand how you feel and will be able to offer support and understanding! We are so glad that you have found us here on Empty Closets!
    .....David :gay_pride_flag: