So, apparently, I have a girlfriend. I knew she was a lesbian and she thinks that I'm a lesbian (that's what I identified as when I came out to her), and I asked her if she wanted to hang out sometime. Well, she interpreted this to mean that we're dating, and I am not attracted to her in any way. I don't really know what to do. I'm demiromantic, so, with time, I might be attracted to her. I asked her if we could take things slow, but I don't think that would be enough for me; I'd like to be friends first. I am also in love with a straight girl who is also my best friend (don't judge me, it happens), so I can't imagine being with anyone else. I was thinking that maybe my girlfriend could help me get over this girl, but I don't think that's fair for her. I have also discovered that I am a demiboy, and because she's a lesbian, I don't know if she would want to be in a relationship with me if I came out to her. I've only been dating her for 4 days now, so I don't think it would be too hard of a blow if I broke up with her. I also feel like I haven't even given her a chance, but at the same time, I'm not attracted to her. What should I do? I know that I was stupid to get myself into this situation, but I'm even more stupid if I can't get myself out of it before I hurt her feelings. Thanks for reading. Any advice would be helpful.
You really shouldn't stay in a relationship just because you feel obligated to. If you aren't attracted to her there's a fair chance time won't change that, especially if you have feelings for someone else, and it would be unfair to her to pretend otherwise. I would recommend just admitting that you only see her as a friend before she gets too invested in the relationship.
I agree with SomeUserName. You shouldn't be in a relationship where you don't have feelings for someone, and you shouldn't lead someone on either. It never ends well. I think you should have a talk. If she misinterpreted your intentions, clearing it up would get you out of the situation. I think some people know on a first date if there is feelings there or isn't. As a girl who gets rejected a lot, and sometimes rejects others, if it's there, it's there, if it's not, it's not. One sided feelings or forced feelings just don't end well.
