The responses to my last thread really got me thinking about my current relationship, and my feelings are mixed. I wondered if anybody else had felt the same way? I've been contemplating leaving my relationship for just over a year. At first, that was mostly to do with the quality of my relationship, such as negative and critical comments regarding my appearance, weight, ability to do the housework, my parenting, my career prospects, etc. My partner also felt that because he worked and I was a stay-at-home-mum, that he shouldn't have to do anything at home, and I mean literally anything. No nappy changes, not even making a cup of tea, not picking his own clothes up off the floor, etc. I don't like the impression it gives our daughter, and my partner doesn't help by jokingly encouraging her to call me "staff" and asking her if she'd like it if I moved out. I went through a period were I felt pretty worthless, but things are much better now. There are other things from earlier in our relationship too, like he wouldn't let me tell my mum our address for the first six months that I lived with him, because he didn't want them coming over. In this same time, I've been questioning my sexuality and imaging myself in a relationship with a woman. At first my questioning wasn't my main concern with regards to my relationship, but recently it has been because I've been questioning more seriously. As a result, I haven't focused on all these other issues as much, but when I do, it seems obvious that I should leave. But, it's easier said than done, because we've had some great times together, have shared experiences, we have a comfortable life, and because I've raised some of the issues mentioned above, we're getting on better day-to-day. The relationship is not what I want; I want a relationship with a deep connection, affection, and sex that doesn't feel like something we just do because we're meant to. I look back over my relationship and I can think of times where I should have ended it, and I wonder why I didn't. Why was the relationships existence more important than its quality? I also feel guilty that I'm contemplating ruining any plans for the future that my partner is making, and about the impact it might have on our daughter. But on the other hand, our relationship feels so superficial, like it's all for outside appearances, and I really don't want commit to it any further. So, I guess my questions is; is it normal to feel mixed emotions when considering the reality of leaving a relationship? Is it normal to sometimes feel excited and happy about the prospect, at other times frightened, and at other times sad for what you're losing?