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'No, you're not.'

Discussion in 'Coming Out Advice' started by PinkFluff, Apr 5, 2013.

  1. PinkFluff

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    I'm telling people what I really am, gay, and most people are responding with "you are not". :bang:
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    What do I do? How do I get people to accept this news?
     
  2. greatwhale

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    Say it often, and consistently, wait a few years and then walk in with a boyfriend one day..
     
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    i really hate it when people do this its like "oh thanks, ill go back to guys now.. "
     
  4. Owen

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    "It's rather presumptuous of you to assume you know what's going on in my head better than I do, don't you think?"

    Or if you'd rather something simpler:

    "Excuse you, since when did you become the authority on my sexuality?
     
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    Don't argue with them. You told them, and that's good enough. Now just be out: act like they know you are gay. Eventually, their brains will accept the truth.
     
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    (*hug*) I know how that feels, it's frustrating and awful and invalidating. I hear you and I believe you. Don't engage, don't argue with them, don't worry about what they think. Just stay the path, be true to yourself and have a nice laugh about what idiots they're going to feel like when they realize how wrong and foolish they were.
     
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    How about this response:


    "Yeah, you're right, I'm not gay. I just like having sex and/or romantic relationships exclusively with men. Definitely not gay though..."

    You know, flippant sarcasm? But that's my game :lol:.


    That, or roll your eyes and move on. They can believe whatever they want, doesn't change how you feel.
     
  8. Eleanor Rigby

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    That's because you're 15. That's a very young age to come out and many people are assuming that "you're confused", that "it's a phase", that "you're too young to know" and many other things.
    I see why such reactions are making you angry, but don't waste your time arguing. You've done your part of the job by coming out, so to speak, whether people choose to believe you or not is not your problem. In 1, 2, 5, 10 years, when you'll still be gay, they'll have a much harder time dismissing your sexuality and then, they'll figure that you knew better than they did.
    Take care, C├ęcile
     
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    When I told my best friend his response was 'you're not...' I just shouted it at him which got the point across.

    I agree with Ianthe though, you told them so just be yourself around them.
     
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    They know now whether they believe it or not.So just do your thing now.