or rather, how do you NOT do it? I read a lot of posts on here about individuals in mixed orientation marriages that don't have sex. My wife and I have not been on the same page about sex for a very long time. And as time goes by, it seems to get worse. As that gets worse, so do my moods, sadness and confusion. I've thought about just abstaining from it all. But I don't want to abstain from loving her and spending qt together. So for those that have found a way to do this, how do you do it successfully? Was/is your spouse okay with this? Do other parts of the marriage suffer? Is it difficult to still feel all the emotions of love without sex? Do you feel that you drifted further apart because of this or closer together?