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Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by likewhoa, Sep 22, 2016.

  1. likewhoa

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    Hello all!

    Hoping to find some kindred spirits here and maybe some support especially during the circumstances I am currently in.

    I am a registered nurse and am currently working as a medical reviewer. I love my job and should be moving to a home based job soon which will be great!

    I formerly identified as bisexual but have finally embraced that I am lesbian. Unfortunately, I am married to a man and we are on the rocks partly over my coming out and partly due to other relationship issues...it has been a difficult time. At this point I am in therapy and we are going to go to couples counseling soon. We haven't decided which path to take and how to avoid the most casualties. We have three children ages 10, 6, and 4 so that makes it even trickier... I don't see a future with him on the one hand, but on the other we've been together and I've been repressing for so long that part of me just says keep doing that and don't wreck my family. We have had a lot of other problems so it's not just this that gives me reason to move on but this will be the reason that is seen. Everyone knows that I'm bi and has known for years so it won't really be a surprise for family and friends who don't know yet to find out I'm gay but there will be fall out over the separation/divorce if it comes to that. Currently my husband goes back and forth between wanting to work things out and accepting that I'm gay and then going back to saying it will never work between us no matter how hard we try.

    I'm not sure where to go with this so I would appreciate any insight or direction. Thank you! Glad to be here!
     
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    Welcome to the forum! :slight_smile:
     
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    Thank you for the warm welcome!
     
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    Welcome to EC, likewhoa!:slight_smile:
     
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    welcome !!
     
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    Hi I'm new here... I actually don't quite know why I ended up here.
    I just feel this post hit something in me. :'(

    Anyway, let me say something about myself. I'm a nurse too, and been married for a couple of years now, I have no kids yet but planning to have one. I guess my husband has always known I have bisexual tendencies bcs I met him on my secret account on twitter and maybe saw exchanges with other women but we never talked about it though. I guess I was just looking for love and didn't matter which gender. But when I got closer to my then twitter friend(now husband), I decided to deactivate my 2nd account and then we just hit it off and eventually got married.

    I love my husband so much, but I recently caught myself enjoying fanfiction stories about characters in coronation street. Anyway, I am so afraid of what the result of this recent feelings that sprouted in me. i mean I've always had a certain feeling when I see on screen romance between women. It's just fucking scary.

    Only my bestfriend knows I'm bisexual, Maybe me being a tomboy gives it away, but to date I am still in the closet.

    I'm sorry if this isn't helpful at all. I just kind of maybe relate to the general info that you shared. (Sigh)

    Cheers!
     
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    I think you have to post this on the different forum that suits the post so that you can receive more feedback. This is a welcome lounge sweetheart. Goodluck.

    ---------- Post added 3rd Oct 2016 at 02:27 PM ----------

    Welcome! You may want more feedback so post this in a different forum coz this is a Welcome Lounge. Start a thread. Will look forward to post.
     
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    Oh sorry! New here. Will post soon. Anyway, don't have much experience, hope everything works out for you!
     
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    Welcome to the forum, my friend!
     
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    Hi! I made this literally an hour ago... I could really use the support! I'm so stressed Idk how to get posts... :eusa_doh: Can someone please please please! Explain how to earn posts, how to submit entries to the people who created the forum, or even how to create a forum. what's the buttons mean on the bottom of posts :eek: like the paper with the semicolon/feather pen..etc..
     
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    ForLove,

    Go to your Profile Page and we can talk about this on your Wall.

    Simply click your own icon on the left side of your post and you will go there. I already posted a message on your Wall.
     
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    Hello, and welcome to EC! I am sorry to hear about your situation, it sounds tough. Just know that there are plenty of people her for you and who know what you're going through. Anyways, congratulations on finally coming out! No matter what happens, its always better to accept your true self.