So a friend recomended this site to me so I decided to join about two days ago. I am a married male 44 and I have been questioning my sexual orientation. Married to a woman, but have sexual urges towards men sometimes and lately these urges have been very strong. About 3 years ago I couldnt take it anymore and i caved in. I enjoyed it but felt guilty afterwards and hid the feelings. I thought feeling guilty meant i wasnt bi, but now i am not so sure. So i am here to try and figure out what i am if you will.
It isn't uncommon for people who are questioning their gender or sexuality to try to fit into different shoes, exploring what their gender/sexuality could be. I myself thought I might be Gay or Trans when I was slightly naïve and discovered LGBTQ+ for the first time in my mid-teens. But I soon realized I was Gay. Sure, meeting other men and 'giving in' later on in life (late 20s) did help me confirm what I thought about my sexuality. So, while it is confusing, I'd encourage you to take it easy. It might and will take time for you to find out, and that is ok. Sure, I can imagine the stress, pressure you might be having in this matter. You're on EmptyClosets now. Lean on the community here for support. We have great members on here, some of whom might have gone through what you are going through right now. Hang in there.
Welcome to EC Jlan3825, I find the Later in Life sub forum here on Empty Closets to be very helpful to those of us who have come to this at a later age. If you haven’t found it already, you may want to see there are so many others in similar life situations, or different ones but some overlap. This is a great forum.
