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New; just came out bi to my wife

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by lucas78, Jun 20, 2020.

  1. lucas78

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    Hi all, I'm new I guess. I'm a man in my 40s, married for over a decade. Some straw broke the camel's back and I recently came out as bi to my wife after just keeping quiet about some of my feelings for many many years.

    I'm relieved and excited, but she's surprised and worried about how my wanting to explore this could change our relationship, so I'm trying to keep things slow and just educate myself and learn more before committing to trying anything with anyone.

    So... hello everyone! I'm looking for folks to talk to about the experience of coming out in middle age with no past same-sex experience and an opposite-sex partner you still love, I guess. Thanks!
     
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    Hey Lucas. :wave: It's nice to meet you. Glad to hear you're taking steps toward becoming happier with yourself, even despite the challenging conversations you may have because of it.
    This is a great place to talk with others to get another perspective. I'm glad you found the forum.:thumbsup:
     
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    Welcome to EC. :slight_smile:
     
  5. lucas78

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    Thanks! Feels good to be here.