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New here. Just saying hi.

Discussion in 'The Welcome Lounge' started by DonW, Jun 3, 2020.

  1. DonW

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    Hi. I'm Don. I'm 50 years old and am bisexual. I have never told anyone that. I live in a very conservative area, and it's just not an option. Although my wife confided in me the other night that she is bisexual and gave me an opening to come out to her, and I didn't. Now I feel bad and want to go back to that moment. I'm glad I found this group to confide in.
     
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    Hi, and welcome! If your wife is bi too, then I would hope she'd be supportive. But don't beat yourself up over missed opportunities. It can be a difficult thing to talk about, even if you expect support. But you can always wait until you're ready; there's nothing wrong with waiting and taking things slow.
     
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    Thanks
     
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    Welcome to EC! :slight_smile:
     
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    Hi Don and welcome. It’s easy to beat yourself up over missed opportunities. Failure is the opportunity to begin again, only this time, more wisely.
     
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    You should go to your wife and confide in her, I figure since she's bi also she would understand you well, but that's just my opinion.
     
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    Thanks for the encouragement. I did. She was so happy that I came out to her. And we are both so much happier knowing that we're not hiding a part of ourselves from each other.
     
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    Hi Don welcome to the site!
     
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    Hi Don,

    1) Welcome to EC

    2) You should think about telling your wife. Although you can't go back to that moment, I'm sure that you have the strength to create a coming out moment of your own. Your wife will most likely be accepting of your sexuality and the two of you could bond over this.

    This is just a suggestion. You don't have to do it if you don't want to.
     
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    Hi Don. I’m new here too.