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Narrow attraction only during foreplay/roleplay

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by PeterHuman, Apr 15, 2020.

  1. PeterHuman

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    I'm attracted exclusively to specific type of men only and feel strong repulsion to intimate relations with any other types of men.

    So, most of men and also gay porn leave me cold because the type of men I'm attracted to is not widespread at all.

    Also, I feel attraction only to specific man's facial and body features and specific social behaviors, but not when it's actually about having sex and dealing with genitalia. I'm even turned off by any sexual references and vulgarities. It's like for me foreplay is sexual but the activities that others consider sexual aren't at all sexual for me. My sexual dreams are the same - feeling aroused by cuddling and talking with a man, but never wanting to have sex.

    So, I have given up and consider myself asexual because I haven't found anyone of "my type" who can get full sexual satisfaction from foreplay and role-playing without ever having actual sex.

    Does it make sense? Can anyone else relate to that? How do you live with that?
     
  2. Laurennnn

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    Okay, definitely can't relate to that lol but here's my advice
    You know what you like. Just because there aren't many men out there that are your type doesn't mean that there aren't any. If you're attracted to certain types of men, that's just who you are. You can go by asexual, if that's who you really think you are, but it sounds like you're attracted men, just not any men. And actually, there are quite a few people out there that have the same feelings as you do - that's pretty common!
    So keep looking - you'll find someone eventually. Things like this take time, so don't rush it and you'll find someone that's perfect for you.
    :slight_smile:
     
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