im busted. she finds out bout my porn i put in my ipod. and now, shes really trying to get me str8. and shes really good at it. shes not doin the typical approach where she gets mad at me and dont wanna talk. but this time, shes been very cool. tryin to make me feel gay is bad, but as a cool mom. but everytime she said that gay is the worst a man could be, i get really upset. now, im the one who doesnt wanna talk to her. i just wanna ask u guys bout ur opinion. what shud i do? but one thing for sure... she wudnt make me str8 again... too late, im all set to go
Tell her to just drop it your Gay and that the end of it like "vampireboy56" said you are who you are.
Sit down with her and explain to her that as much as she doesnt want it to be true, it is & there is nothing she can do about it. Btw porn on your iPod so not a good idea, at least use the number lock.
Well since your mum is up for discussion in a passive agressive way, when she comes out with being gay is the worst a man can get, counter her argument with 'Oh so you would prefer it if I were a paedophile, axe murderer, sociopath with homicidal tendancies, etc.' Explain to your mum that there are many, many things worse out there in the world, like scum bags who con people out of their money, thieves, kidnappers, men who enjoy beating their wives... the list is endless. Put a bit of perspective on this for your mum. She seems to have got this way out of proportion. You could even make a list of all the terrible things you could be and ask your mum if she would really prefer you to be one of them rather than gay.
Yeah.. Agree with Louise. But remember to say that just because you could be many other worse things it doesn't mean that being gay is bad at all. Ask her why it's bad. And are you from a Christian/Catholic background?
A sociopthic axe-murdering wife-beating scumbag paedophile thief with homocidal tendencies who cons people out of their money and kidnaps their kids is worse than a gay
I think you just need to sit down with her and explain that this is who you are, that it isn't a choice and it isn't something she can change. Remember there's nothing wrong with who you are and if she can't see that then it's her problem and not yours. Good luck! (*hug*) Dan
Ok, you're 17 so you've got maybe a year or two until you leave home? If you're strong enough-I advise you to fake it. Make her think that you're straight. I'm not saying you have to get a g/f or anything, just make her not suspicious, maybe leave some straight p0rn discretely (and as far as gay porn goes, cover your tracks mate!!), say that you were curious and that "you've changed your ways". If she can believe that you can change-I'm sure she'll fall for you faking it-if you do it right. You're going to have to be ok with being dishonest with her-but remember that it's for your own good. If you'd prefer being brainwashed to hate yourself and losing all of your self-acceptance, then by all means go ahead. Good luck! (*hug*)(*hug*)
