Mostly a rant about a certain transphobic father, kinda need to blow off some steam

Okay, so here's the deal; my dad is kind of a jerk on general, but ever since I came out to my parents a little over a year ago (I think), it seems like it's getting worse.

I think he's generally verbally and emotionally abusive, but I wouldn't bring him to court, if that makes sense. He yells way too much, shouts profanity at someone (only when he's with us - me, my mom and my brother. Outside, he (mostly) keeps it in, but when we get in the door...), name-calls (prick, bitch, etc.), and other things, and when people tell him to calm down, or call him out on his "abusiveness", he says, "oh would you rather have someone who gets drunk every night and beats you?" As if comparing one type of abuse to another makes sense. Sure. Whatever.

Anyways, ever since I came out to my parents, I've constantly heard him mouthing off about me to my mom, thinking I can't hear what he says. Things like, "he wants to be a girl?" and "he's only doing it for attention," still sometimes telling me to "be a man" when I have a huge depressive episode. "Be an adult" sounds better, don't you think? He has this whole misogynistic point of view, even getting mad at my mom if she screws up something whole cooking, as if he could do any better. He NEVER makes dinner, who is he to talk?

Like holy crap.

He acts like he knows everything, but doesn't know anything, and says everyone else is stupid.

He just irks me alot.

And rant probably half way done, but my fingers hurt.

 

Re: Mostly a rant about a certain transphobic father, kinda need to blow off some ste

Yeah, I know. Sorry, just had to get that off my chest.

I love my mom, though, she's so accepting... but my dad knows nothing, and claims to know everything. *sigh* ._.

 

Re: Mostly a rant about a certain transphobic father, kinda need to blow off some ste

Okay, the last half of that is so true in my situation.

Oh, and I think my mom's considering a divorce, because she knows it just isn't healthy. If she does get a divorce, hey, I can get a brand new start in Oregon (family there), and my mom's maiden name goes so much better with my chosen name than my father's last name.

... yeah, I think joking about it is my way of dealing with it. I mean, I've lived with both of them for 17 years, if they do get divorced, it'll be something completely different than what I'm used to, even if it'll be "better". ._.

Aaaaaaaaand now this probably belongs in the family and relationships section... is there a way to move the entire thread there or something, or should I just stop here, since my rant is over? ._.

Oh, and thanks for talking, got even more stuff off my chest.

 

Re: Mostly a rant about a certain transphobic father, kinda need to blow off some ste

Well, on the car ride back home from the local LGBT center, my dad called me Courtney.

I almost wanted to start crying. ._.
I thought he would never do that.