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Most stupid/ridiculous questions you've been asked about your orientation?

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  1. Wolfwing

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    When I came out to my sister, in the same conversation, she literally asked me, "Are there any guys you find attractive?".
     
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    When you get a boyfriend will you make out in front of his parent?
     
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    "So, like, if you prefer guys, doesn't that just make you gay?"

    "Doesn't bisexual just mean you're confused?"

    "So does this mean you're addicted to orgies?"

    "So, monogamy is out of the picture?"


    These are the most infuriating questions I've been asked about my orientation.
     
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    Can you be truly satisfied in a monogamous relationship/with one gender?
     
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    "Are you surrrrrrre that exists?"

    (This was to an online person)
     
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    "Women are great, I just don't see why you would want to transition"

    "if you end up with a guy do you plan to have your own kids?"

    (After coming out to someone) "That's so cool! You get to choose the size of your penis!"

    "But you're a girl..."

    "You know that hormones will have a permanent effect on your body, right?"

    "But you look so pretty as a girl"

    "Once you have sex with guy you'll stop being so confused"
     
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    Which one wears the dress
     
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    "How do you know your gay if you have never 'done it' with a guy before?"
     
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    You should talk to a priest, he was a boy too once.
     
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    That sounds like a very normal question to me, lol.
     
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    Hate this one. How do straight people know they're straight without sleeping with the opposite sex?
     
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    What if that question had been asked by another gay guy?
     
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    It's with couples usually asking me to join with them in a threesome and I would tell them no and then I would block them
     
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    ohh crap that was my favorite too :slight_smile::thumbsup:
     
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    Why can't you just be straight?
     
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    I'm pleased to see this thread, because it gives those members who are planning to come out the opportunity to anticipate these questions and prepare their answers, and it is important to be prepared. When we demonstrate a level of assurance and certainty to all questions it's very hard for people to dismiss our sexuality as a fad or phase (another silly statement/question that comes up).

    When people confront us with silly or stupid questions it's very hard to maintain our composure and we may react in a way that generates more hostility. We need to avoid that at all costs. If you become irritated or upset with people (no matter how crass or ridiculous they appear to be) they are likely to believe you are unhappy with your sexual orientation and that will only lead to further intransigence on their part and a complete stalemate. None of us want that.

    Some of the questions may be intentionally hurtful, but many are not. It's important to understand that parents, siblings and other relatives or friends are not experts on LGBT issues and when we come out to them their minds will begin to do somersaults. In the heat of the moment all sorts of statements and questions will emerge, and hard as it is, we need to stay composed and respond simply and with as much dignity as we can muster. So take a look at the questions that everybody adds to this thread, and really think about how you can answer without sinking to a bad level and becoming entrenched in a coming out argument.
     
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    I don't know, it depends on the person.
     
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    To my knowledge, I've had no such questions. If a stupid/ridiculous questions surfaces itself, I must not have paid attention or just shook it off. Either those options or I just didn't write those questions off as stupid/ridiculous. As Mrs. Trump said, "There are naive questions, tedious questions, ill-phrased questions, questions put after inadequate self-criticism. But every question is a cry to understand the world. There is no such thing as a dumb question.” (I know Mrs. Trump didn't actually say this, I'm just poking fun.)
     
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    So you think your gay? Even after I told them I'm bi.
     
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    "Are you trans as well then?" - I honestly have no idea how gender and sexual identity are linked, but they clearly thought so.