I am out to my mom, in fact she's the one who asked me if I was gay. Of course I told her the truth and she seemed okay with it, just concerned due to her limited knowledge of the subject. I still think that she is holding out for me to one day come home with a girl I'm engaged to and have a normal happy family with two kids and a dog. I am asking for advice on how to get her to understand, and how I can gain the ability to converse with her when I get a boyfriend or something and I want to go to his house. I guess I'm saying, how do I get her to realize that I'm just the same as a hetero, I just happen to like guys?
First of all that's awesome that your mom is so accepting. And there is a group that may be able to help your mom. It's called PFlag. They are great people that helped and are still helping my family. There are also a lot of books out there that can help. But the one thing you don't want to hear I know is that you have to give her time. I was the same way for some time tring to push them to under stand that it wasn't a phase or a lie. That I am really gay. But pushing won't get you anywhere so just give her some time and she will come around to under stand. Again you are a amazing person for coming out at your age and even where you live. I know how it is living in the south.
Well, I think perhaps your age has something to do with it. She may believe (wrongly) that 14 is too young to know, or clinging to the hope that "it's a phase." But that's OK. She's still accepting, and i think if you just gently mention when you're meeting a boy (same as a straight guy would mention meeting a girl), she'll get the picture and go along with it. It just takes a little time sometimes.
