Meeting people while a mess

So I really would like to meet new people but I can't do it. On an app I'm too shy to even show what I look like which is stupid. Even if I could show myself I'd still be depressed and anxious.

Today I started meds but I already want to stop. Feel like they're going to make things worse. Just really lost and confused and not okay right now.

 

Thank you. I think there are some local theatre and acting groups near me, I could always give them a try. I used to do something similar as a kid but quit due to anxiety, but there's nothing stopping me joining anything again now though.

Thank you for your reply too =) That's true. So many worries about the meds - becoming emotionally numb, etc. But I have a call with a mental health person on Tuesday so I can maybe mention my worries to them then. I'm also worried about them affecting my job etc but again I can talk to the person when I have that call.

That's true about making friends, that is something I could try. I wish I had the confidence to be a bit more outgoing on apps etc because it's much easier doing things that way as an introvert, but I could always have a look around at some different volunteering or group options.

I'm just feeling quite negative right now for lots of personal reasons but I know I have to keep going.

 

I'm sorry you struggle with similar issues It's so hard. Not even because I'm especially wary of what I look like, it's more because I'm a private introverted person and I don't want my photos just out there for everyone to see. Plus it's hard to trust online. I need to get to know people slowly etc but I worry I'm in such a state that I'll put myself out there, photos and all, and then just mess everything up. It's hard to actually change anything feeling like this.

Sometimes I wish sites would allow some chatting first, with no expectations. For things to move slower and be based more around interests and becoming friends first etc. I know that's not a very popular idea though.

I'm not sure if they're right or not. I've only been on them two days. I really do want to stop though. Not sure what I'm going to do about it.

 

It would. I think there are apps like that, maybe I'll need to have a look into them. But for some reason not many people seem to understand the particular type of anxiety I get when it comes to dating and friendship apps. To me they're absolutely terrifying.

Thank you I'll try to give it a few more days maybe. I don't like being on them at all like I said and I still think I'd like to quit but I should consider continuing them at least. I guess they were prescribed to me for a reason.

 

Thank you I'm really trying. Been on meds for three days but thinking of stopping so I can focus more on behavioural changes etc. Keeping lists to help with basic daily tasks while I'm depressed really helps for example. And keeping a tidy environment, getting some light exercise, eating healthily and talking things through I think would be more helpful for me personally than meds. There are a few difficult personal things going on for me at the moment, I'm not sure how to deal with things sometimes especially involving other people, but I'm trying my best.

 

Thank you to both of you for replying. That's true silverhalo, I guess just because I'm taking meds it doesn't mean I have to stop trying other things alongside them. And quebec, I'm sorry you had to go through so much. It does help hearing other people's experiences like your own though. And I would really love a LGBTQ+ friendly therapist.

I think money is a concern for me, as I'm only working part time at the moment, and I hear horror stories about the meds. How prozac is very strong, people have brain zaps coming off of them, how it leads to problematic behaviour, car accidents, psychosis etc. So maybe my anxiety is stopping me from really giving them a proper try.

I was bad, I didn't take my fourth dose today because I was planning to stop. I want to try continuing tomorrow but I know I shouldn't mess with them too much like this. I just find it so hard and scary putting myself through this process.

 

I do, both, and I have an appointment booked with a nurse in just under 2 weeks. I just feel very anxious about the whole thing, probably more than I should.

 

If I really need to I can. It's just hard because ultimately the decision is mine.

They are. I have concerns and the nurse has already talked me through some of them but relying on medication like this kind of freaks me out. I know I feel low off the medication but I can still function so I'm just not sure how I'm feeling about this.

But I guess if I get really concerned I can call my GP surgery and ask to speak to someone.

 

That's true. Because it's psychological, I find it hard to know where my depression ends and I begin if that makes sense. I find myself doubting if I even do have depression. But I've been honest with the nurse and she and the doctor thought I needed these. So you're right I should give them a try. I just really worry they will make things worse at a time when I should be setting up my life after university. I guess I just overthink and stress myself out before anything even has the chance to go wrong.