Hi, I'm 48 and have been in a straight marriage for 20 years. I am in therapy and my therapist thinks it might be helpful for me to engage with a group such as this. Last year I started hooking up with men and in March I met someone that has me considering whether I am really gay or bi or whatever and whether to end my marriage for a relationship with him. I am not out at all. I'm in therapy to deal with anxiety, my failing marriage and my confusion over my identity. My therapist has raised the question of attachment theory, ie am I simply getting emotional and physical needs most this man that I've been missing in my marriage for the last decade. I don't know that I want to have this conversation in an open forum but I don't know how it all works here yet. But anyway there it is.