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Married and questioning! Help!

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by KrisMurphy, Mar 7, 2020.

  1. Quidditch

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    I think I will try again soon... I have thought about it differently and have different thoughts and questions than I did.

    Slytherin. I know we get a bad rap, but we're not all evil... haha. You?
     
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    I did, but requested it be deleted because I was so embarrassed. I'll try again soon. Thank you!
     
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    Hey no worries we have all been there, I remember being absolutely terrified and having no clue what I was doing here.
    As @LostInDaydreams say the forum is sometimes busier than others and so its nothing personal that your post didnt get any responses, sometimes thats just the way it goes.

    My other half made me a Harry Potter fan haha.
     
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    Yeah, I get that - my thoughts were all over the place.

    I’ll take your word for it! Haha. I’m Ravenclaw.
     
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    So it's been almost 2 years since I came out.

    Life is amazing.

    It certainly had it's ups and downs but being true to myself was the best decision ever.

    I'm out as a nonbinary lesbian.
    I live with the love of my life, my beautiful girlfriend who I met in fall of 2020.

    It does get better.
     
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    I totally get this. I'm engaged to a man I've been with 8.5 years, and I've been realizing I'm super gay (but I'm still attracted to him so it's complicated), but if it's just about me, and his feelings weren't an issue, I know I'd want to just be a single lesbian and live alone and date ladies. But it's so complicated and confusing not wanting to hurt him. I get itttttttt.

    In the end though, I guess I'm saying this to you and myself, your happiness is the most important because it's YOUR life and if you're not happy with him he also won't be happy, right? If you get out of a situation that makes you unhappy you both get the chance to find happiness.
     
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    I absolutely agree!

    This post is actually from 2020, I just replied an update above. :slight_smile: I'm so happy. I came out. I feel so fulfilled with my life and I'm dating and living with my amazing girlfriend!
     

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    You are nor alone. And welcome here.
     
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    Hope your doing ok
     
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    You are far from alone. I told my now wife when we first met that I was bi. No problems, only support. But now, ten years into the marriage I have realized that I am absolutely gay. Gay and uncertain what to do. Just know you are not alone!
     
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    I had bisexual urges for many years after getting married. But I too realize I'm now 100% gay
     
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