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Look in the mirror. What do you see?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by lovetoomuch, Dec 26, 2015.

  1. lovetoomuch

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    I've had a recent trend of starting ridiculously weird threads, so I figure why not do another one.
    I was looking in the mirror and noticed how everything I think about myself changes each time I go to the mirror. One time I can look in the mirror and be pleased with what I see; I feel confident and I'm ready to take the world by storm. I could go back 20 minutes later and see the bags under my eyes, the acne, my bushy eyebrows. Each time looking in a mirror is a different experience with different feelings toward myself. I tend to put a lot of pressure on myself with looks and I never seem to be satisfied.

    So, I ask you to stop what you're doing and go to the nearest mirror. Go back to your computer and type what you saw.
    First, say everything you see: things you are proud of, things you hate, things you have no opinion towards (MAKE SURE YOU FIND NICE THINGS TO SAY ABOUT YOURSELF).

    Then, type an overall perception of what you feel: Are you happy with what you see in the mirror? Are you mad? Are you going to try to make a change in the future (lose weight, cut your hair a different way, etc.)? Say everything you see and feel.



    The great thing about this thread will be you can come back as many times as you want. While it probably will not happen, you can come back every time you look in the mirror. I'm trying to not only see everyone's confidence level, but also how perceptions change each time we look in a mirror.

    I'll start.

    I see busy eyebrows that I have always hated. I see my hazel eyes which is one of the few things I'm proud of. My light brown hair is kind of swooped to the side and I like the look of it at the moment, even though I need a haircut (I love the look of my hair after a haircut). I see acne on my face, even though I'm happy to say it looks much better than it did in the past few weeks. I see wrinkles on my forehead caused by stress in the past. Maybe I should start stressing less (haha)? Wow, I wish I could grow some facial hair - lol.

    Overall perception: At the moment, I am happy with what I see. I think I look good today. Amazing? No. But if I were out and about, I may just have the confidence to ask someone out. I definitely need a haircut soon though. And I cannot wait to get my eyebrows done for the first in the future, even though it will be painful (I'm not trying to get them done really thin or anything; I just want them well groomed). Who knows what I will will think of myself when I look in the mirror next.

    Thanks for any future responses!
     
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    I'll go next, unless I get ninjad.

    I see my dark Brown hair, so dark it's almost black. My hair is super over grown I look sort of like a macaroni penguin lol. My peach fuzz on the sides of my face has turned into a patchy 5 o'clock shadow, I should probably shave. I see mild acne and scar of previous break outs.

    Over all I feel good, after I shave and put my "face" on. I like the structure of my face but my damn acne makes me feel a ugly and gross at times but it seems to be fading, THANK GOD.
     
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    My hair looks weird and I have acne :/ I have nice eyes, I guess, but I always look angry.
     
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    I see a lot of things; me isn't one of them.
    The man there is almost, but not quite tall, he has glasses which are permanently dirty, a nose that is too big for his face, slightly yellow crooked teeth, hair that is one of the few things that suit him a nice dark brown that reach his shoulders.
    I can almost convince myself I have breasts when I wear a baggy jacket (I am too thin for large ones) but I know they are not there.
    I see a lot of this things but the girl I am is not one of them.
     
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    I'm too lazy right now to stand up... Also I'd rather not look at any mirror, I'm a bag of bones right now, well dressed bag of bones...

    Rsting bitch face on a female? Nice...
     
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    A happy girl who is getting pretty good at makeup.
     
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    Honestly, I actually like what I see in the mirror most days. I actually do feel very sexy. It's just that I feel like the mirror is lying to me. The person that I'm perceiving is different from what everyone else perceives. A friend took a picture of me after I had dressed up, and I looked so hideous in that photo. I don't understand how I could look so drastically different!

    Anyway, let me go scurry to the nearest mirror. It's early morning so, I'll probably look like a haggard mess.

    *scurries away*

    ...

    Ok, I'm back from the mirror trip.

    I'm in my pajamas and my hair is a mess, so as predicted, I like quite haggard, haha.

    The good. I love my hair. It's full and thick, and for some reason it's up, so it looks like I did my hair, even though I just rolled out of bed. I like the bit of shadow on my face, and the fullness of my eyebrows. It just makes me feel very... strong. Like hey, you have heavy boxes you need help carrying?

    I also like my face shape and my eyes. I feel like I have a good face, and ever since I started working out and losing weight, the puffiness of my cheeks have gone down. I can see the sharpness in my chin starting to develop. As for my eyes, it's a little unsettling to see myself starting at... myself, but they're inviting. Kind. Vulnerable. I feel like I'm starting to understand what people mean when they say I look approachable.

    The bad. Holy shit, I broke out on my chin. I knew I shouldn't have eaten that fried egg roll last night.

    I also feel very middle-heavy. I know it's the layers of clothing that makes it look like I have a large belly, but I can't help but feel like I still haven't lost weight this entire time, even though that's not true.

    I have an ugly side profile. I look like a neanderthal from this angle.

    I have such a round ass. Omg. It looks out of place. This is why jean shopping is hell for me, my friends.

    I hate my smile.
     
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    We change at different time periods of the day. I don't know why.. but it's a thing lolz. In the morning I look really good.... even to me XD. My skin is really clear and I look refreshed. Them after I wash my face and put on other hygiene products.. I look really terrible.
     
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    I'm going to only write about what I love about myself, because why not? I like to live by the motto: "good vibes only."

    -The first thing I notice is my smile. Not only do I love my smile, but I've always been complimented on my white, straight (no pun intended) teeth. I've never had braces!
    -I see my lips, that I love. I'm not sure why, but I think they're nice lol.
    -my eyelashes are also long. So many women have complimented them (my old manager used to tell me how jealous she was of them!).
    -my facial hair. I think I look sexy with it, so I try to keep a s*****y (but trimmed and maintained) look. My job requires me to shave, but I'm pretty sure my boss has accepted that I'm not going to!
     
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    I look in my bedroom mirror and i see... Myself, pretty much. I see black curly hair that most black guys have, instead this time i have really bad hair line on my edges, thanks to a horrifingly bad barber, and the hair there is taking forever to grow. The hair on my head top is bigger, nappier, and annoying and tempting to touch and scratch, not to mention comb, which i do rarely. I see my eyebrows, which are super curved, "on fleek" i guess you could say. Under my eyebrows is a wierd scar from a bicycle accudent when i was 2.My eyelashes are really messy. And my eyes are really big, and are hazel-coloured, just like my moms. I have a little beach fuzz on the sides infront of my ears, i don't know if it will grow to a beard or not. I have a huge nose, which i don't like at all, and when i bend my face in a mirror i look like an evil witch in a movie. Under my nose is a line of peach fuzz which grew slighlty thicker recently, it will soon become a moustache, i guess. My lips are red, and usually chappy, they're not as i write this but usually they are. My teeth are okay, a bit crooked, because i got one that hanging down removed last year. I wonder if i'm done shedding teeth. On my cheeks are acne scars, and i hate them, they make me feel so swlf concious in public, and i'm the only one in family with acne, which makes it ten times worse:frowning2:. On my chin i have some more peach fuzz. My clothes are a grey sweater with a zipper and black cuffs, a tank top with the grim reaper on it, and black long johns. My hands are long, and scrawny, i hate them. Basically, i look like your typical fulani(west african ethnicity) boy.

    The good: my eyes, my eyebrows, peach fuzz, mouth, ears(just a bit).

    The bad: my nose, my arms, my legs, my hair, my voice( SO FRIGGIN DEEP.)

    Side notes: usually on my right hands ring finger i have a crescent moon with a star ring on it, my mom gave it to me when i was 10, and never really told me why, and to never take it off. I took it off a while ago, cause it broke. Between my eyebrow of eyelid on my right, i have a scar that looks like a seed, with two dots on top and on the bottom. I've been told it's a stitch from a bicycle accident when i was 2 years old. When i tell people none believes me, and i don't think i can believe myself, because my dad has a similiar make in hid face too...strange. On my shoulder i have a wierd mark that my calls a "maklate". It's like a tear drop or animal footprint in the sand. I was born with so much veins on my eyelid, it looks really creepy. The doctor said it would go away, but it hasn't till this day. My mother says when i was born i had green eyes, but they became light brown after a few days.


    For some wierd reason, a lot of people think i'm really, super duper handsome. I think i'm average, 50/50.
     
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    *smashes mirror*

    The Good: My eyes- I guess. They're a sea green with an orange/brown ring around my pupil. Also, there is a blue area in my left eye- like a sector you see in a circle. Not sure if I like that though..used to get some stick for it.

    The Bad: Everything else. My hair is unstylable- forcing me to wear it in an ugly style which is in a ponytail. It's long, too feminine for my liking. I wish I could get it short, but homophobic and transphobic family would suspect something.
    My eyebrows. They're thick and bushy, ugh.
    My face in general. I just look ugly, really.....
     
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    I see a woman who looks a lot younger than she is. She has medium lengthed brown hair and pretty brown eyes with long eyelashes. She has an okay complexion. She could stand to lose some weight but is still pretty good-looking.
     
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    You can see my sports bra. Today I couldn't wear a binder (again) because my rib kind of hurt.
    I'm wearing a new shirt. I like it. It's already dirty. I baked today and splashes of dough got on it.
    I'm wearing sweatpants like most of the time because I don't like any of my tight fitting girly pants.
    My hair is a mess but it looks quite good I think.
    I have a huge pimple between my eyebrows but it's already getting better.
    My eyebrows are growing out. A bit weirdly actually. They don't really have a shape.
    I like my mouth. My lips are quite full. But they make my face look really childish.
    I like how I look without makeup. I haven't worn any for 3 weeks or something. (Not planning on doing it again)
    I see thighs and a hips that I don't like. They're too feminine and too large.
     
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    I see someone whom I've grown to like way more than I used to before (still can't say I love how I look, but I don't hate it, either). There were times when I would pass by a mirror and instantly think to myself stuff like "you, ugly fuck", "you look awful", "look at yourself, nobody's gonna like you" etc. and it would literally make me scream on the inside. Fuck, I've even cried because of what I would see in the mirror. Now... now I think I don't look half as bad as I used to think I looked. Yes, I still have many imperfections, but so what... In RuPaul's words - If you can't love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else. :sunglasses:
    Yes, it definitely was a slow process, but I'm getting there. :wink:
     
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    I see a guy with dark brown - black eyes with some bags, cheeks and chin with mild acne, nice eyebrows, a caramel skin complexion. I know I'm confident, I just need to believe in myself.
     
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    tall guy with green grey eyes and a light but meaningful smile. people say my eyebrows are pretty great and I kind of agree with them.
    but I need a haircut
     
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    Yay, I like threads like these :3

    So, I have looked in the mirror and that's what I saw:
    Rather thin eyebrows that I've never liked much because they appear too feminine to me. A scar on my forehead that I'm just used to and I barely pay any attention to it. Dark eyes, a little bit slanty, that look bigger without glasses. A rather long nose which used to be my biggest insecurity (now it's not because I think it makes my face more masculine). Gently smiling lips. Soft cheeks. Lots of freckles. 4 birthmarks that make a curve on my left cheek. Long hair because I don't think men are obliged to always cut it short. A litrle bit of facial hair that makes me wonder how is it even possible. Narrow arms. Breasts which I've never been fond of, even though they aren't very big. Broad hips which I sincerely hate. Thin wrists and ankles, long skinny fingers (I probably have achromachia). All male clothes. I think it's all.
    Do I like what I see? Well, I think I have started to look more like a male recently, so I like my reflection more. I just wish my body shapes were different. Overall, I think I like myself more than I used to. Maybe it's love that heals me. Maybe the fact that there are people who know the truth about me yet still accept me anyway.
     
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    I'm not only posting good vibes because bad vibes derserve a right to exist too.

    My face in general seems too look a bit angry. Resting bitch face, end of day weariness, or stress? I don't know.

    My eyebrow's are ever so slightly too bushy. It could be helped but I don't mind too much.

    My eyes are probably my favorite part of my face. They have a nice light blue / silver color and the eyelashes flow really nicely. The other day my friend was taking pictures of people's eyes and he was suprised and said they were unfairly pretty and looked like anime eyes.

    My nose is slightly too big and for some reason it's always seems to be annoyingly shiny.

    My lips are okay.

    My chin has the most acne on my body. I have no clue why. I've never seen anyone else with most of their acne concentrated at their chin.

    My torso has a bit more weight on it than I would like. It also has more of a hourglass like curve to it than most people with male bodies.

    Overall: it could be improved with exersize and skin treatment.
     
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    Call me a bitch and it'll be more than resting :wink: haha jk