Life and how it can always be tough

To start her name was Sarah and she was such a love. We met years ago on a bus ride to a gay event. We were broke and she offer to drive her truck with all of us on board. We all came to know her and love who she was. Her coming out story was at fourteen. She came out and entered a horror film that turned into her life. She turned 64 in December of last year.
Fifty years later her coming out was still the framework where she hung the boards that would be her life. An awesome woman with a wickedly cruel story. She lived with her partner of years Dan (a female). They were a beautiful couple. Each was an anchor to each other.
Today I remember Sarah and the tragic events of her life. She finally ended her being yesterday. She had tried before a number of times as has her partner Dan. The two were funny and loving but events shattered their center. They lived reclusive lives that included no close friends nearby. The nearest neighbors are maybe a mile away.

Sarah was a wonderful woman. Today she would have thrived and probably had a healthy life as a queer woman. Back in 1963 when she came out the world was less friendly and people even relatives did not cut you any slack. Today she would have had a place to turn and run when life crumbed around her. Back then not so much.

I guess when I think of her story I wish that she would have been born in an era of openness like today. Yes coming out can be a scary thing but there is information, gay alliances, websites, laws to protect and even shelters to run too. Some may think that today is not so hot but it beats the past. Sarah was not coming out when she asked her mom what her problem was. There was no other person in the world to find out what gay was except someone you thought you could really trust.
Her question was innocent. She struggled for fifty years because she asked a question in a society far less tolerant than today. Hugs Sarah know that you are loved.

 

Hugs and thank you dear. Yeah it was a much different place.

 

Thanks sweetheart it means a lot.

---------- Post added 15th Mar 2013 at 10:18 AM ----------

I think we are now living in the good old days. Hugs love

---------- Post added 15th Mar 2013 at 10:19 AM ----------

Thank you sweetheart. You are a dear. Hugs

 

Thank you Stuck

I see that Sarah has ended her suffering and released the pain she has carried. We can be joyous in that this has ended. We celebrate the birth and should well celebrate the passing. In most ways we do celebrate it.
The mourning we feel as humans or at least for me is the selfish this person is gone and can never be replaced. We are left with a hole.
Sarah was a gem to be cherished and a wonderful and loving partner and friend. We shared life with this wondrous woman every day for close to three years. I loved her and will the sadness is from the missing. Thank you so much for your kind words of love and peace. Kisses dear

 

Thank you dear. It means a lot and i am thankful for your friendship as well. Hugs so much.

 

Thank you love and Stuck Mistake had a great post at #8. Hugs and love

---------- Post added 15th Mar 2013 at 09:23 PM ----------

I know you are always here and i love you and all the rest who have shared their love today. Thanks sweetie

---------- Post added 15th Mar 2013 at 09:25 PM ----------

I do hope she is at peace. We will go on. The initial missing is so hard. Thank you my dear. So much love to you

---------- Post added 15th Mar 2013 at 09:27 PM ----------

Thank you love. I will always consider your shoulder. I think of the love she shared and the beauty of her life. I have found on EC a family of genuine lovers and friends. I am in awe. Love you angel

 

It was but there are still so many struggles with coming out. We should not even have to do this. It is sad. Thank you so much hugs and love