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Lesbians who are attracted to gay men?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Islander, Jul 7, 2013.

  1. Islander

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    Hi all,

    So basically, I've never had much of an attraction to any guys, but the very VERY few that I've had the SLIGHTEST crush on have been gay/very camp. Just wondering how many other lesbians feel the same way?

    Also, do gay guys often find themselves attracted to butch lesbians? (How cool would a lesbian and gay couple be :O )
     
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    I saw a documentary type show other day (Im married to a...) the gay guy was married to a straight girl and she knew and accepted he was gay. It worked fine for them they said.

    Im a trans guy and typically attracted to gay guys and ftm. but have had a crush on a lesbian before (she was very masculine)
     
  3. drwinchester

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    Same ^. Even before I identified as male, I was attracted to gay men, even though I was out as a lesbian. The few women I've been attracted to were usually either on the masculine side or gender nonconforming (my ex, for instance, is genderqueer masculine, and one person I was attracted to recently is genderfluid). Now I'm mainly attracted to gay men, cis and trans* (even though a lot of the transguys I liked turned out to be straight. -_-)
     
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    I'm a lesbian and I feel the same way. Usually it's only feminine animated guys.
     
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    This, but not attracted to them for their looks. More so their personality.
     
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    I agree with Ace94 I would have a crush on a gay guy for there personality not there looks.
     
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    My boyfriend had a crush on a boyish lesbian last year when he was on holiday. He really, really doesn´t like girls bodies, so it is only because she looked so boyish. She liked him very much too.
    He is still in touch with her, actually.

    I don´t know any lesbians of my age, so I can´t talk from my own experience.
     
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    I have seen Women before who look like Cute Guys & it's quite confusing, when you think, whoa He looks Fit & then it turns out to be a Girl :confused:
     
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    I think there's a certain shared mutual respect between gay/lesbians particularly the kind of lesbians that have an issue with 'manly' men.

    But also I find myself somewhat attracted to boyish girls.. which helped me convince myself I was straight for a long time.:lol: In fact lesbian porn used to be all I would watch. Weird.
     
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    And I think because a lot of gay dudes are feminine ...
     
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    Glad to know I'm not the only one! I was just starting to worry...am I actually straight? :O
     
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    I never really noticed that I had this same problem up until now after reading your post. lol

    It's so strange, because a lot of my celebrity crushes are on gay guys. :lol: Hmmm, so apparently I'm not the only one with this problem. Maybe it's that, living in today's society, I've been brought up to believe that I should like boys. And gay boys are well, gay and more feminine. So maybe it's our brains trying to subtly rebel? Haha, I have no idea. Now I'm going to be pondering this question as well.
     
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    I'm bisexual but at least 1/2 of my crushes on guys the guys have been gay.
    Is this normal or do i really just have horrid luck when it comes to guys?
     
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    it may be an indicator that you actually slightly prefer women, if the gay guys have been feminine
     
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    I totally agree with this, I spent years puzzling why I was attracted to gay men, it was never a looks thing, It was always a personality thing, totally bizarre! Funny how life unfolds and all the pieces seem to fit together slowly but surely! lol
     
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    I dated queer and queerish, but alway super feminine, men for many years. I can still be slightly attracted to them. I IDed as Bi for years because of this till I realized its not the man I'm attracted to so much as the expression of femininity in a non-standard fashion. The queering of gender norms really does it for me, i.e. femme men and butch women.
     
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    YES that's exactly what it is! I wonder why, though? Interesting stuff...
     
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    Lesbian married to a guy who identifies as mostly gay here. Yes, I love my gay boys, except when I get them in the bedroom I have no clue what to do with them. I keep looking for a vagina and not finding one :lol:
     
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    It has never happened to me, I've seen attractive looking gay guys but that's all it is and it's never developed into a crush or anything like that, well so far and I really don't think it will.
     
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    So - if you don't mind me asking - are you two actually attracted to each other etc? So being lesbian and gay doesn't affect your relationship?