Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by Sensational, Mar 20, 2017.
Lesbians how do you feel around guys?
Neutral/Indifferent? Like, I can care for them as a friend, but not more.
I'm not a women, but I can post my feelings cause it shows no gender.
I tend to feel anxious around macho insecure men who like to flaunt their machoness. Around just people who tend to be more a mix between masc and fem I feel indifferent.
I feel the same. Super macho-men make me feel awkward. I'm definitely not a "man's man"
Of course, there are different contexts for how I feel around guys. Generally, they're pretty cool but of course I'm not falling over myself to date them. A lot of the guys I know are kind of ridiculous, so I guess sometimes I don't really understand why they do some ridiculous things. Of course, I am only talking about guys I know.
i feel just...ok? i can't even see them as friends because most of the times i have nothing in common with guys so..
when i wasn't aware of my sexuality i used to feel uncomfortable around them because i thought i had to please them somehow... even if i didn't like them! it's weird haha
now obviously i don't even care..
I'm not sure if I'm lesbian or bi or what, but I actually tend to feel more comfortable with men on a conversation level. I'll occasionally notice a guy is good looking, but that's it.
Now for friendship; yes, all my friends are women.
I used to feel more comfortable around guys, more joking less gossiping. But now, I am aware of my sexuality and grown as a woman more. I still feel comfortable, only I like to be silly or go into deep philosophy, now I am worried I give mixed signals sometimes. Unless they have a partner already.
When I do start to feel anxious about this I just think back to this Dead Kennedys Song "Macho Insecurity" cause I know they put on that facade just to hide themselves.
"Why do you want people to be so afraid of you?
Why are you so scared of anything that's different?
No one's ever there when you need friends
You wonder why:
It's 'cause you take yourself so seriously
But being such a clown
Gives the rest of us the right to laugh
At your Macho Insecurity
'Cause you can't stand yourself"
Same! But I feel just fine around my guy coworkers and supervisors, who are all around my age. Indifferent really - i mean i care about them as people and i'll notice if they could be considered good looking, but that's as far as it goes. But yeah, around that type of man in the quote, i just feel awkward, anxious.
I always feel more comfortable around guys as I always worry that women think there's a hidden agenda.
However the only friends I have in rl are women. 2 straight and 1 gay. I get paranoid around my straight friends sometimes.
However due to my anxiety and depression I no longer go out and the thought of talking to anyone face to face is overwhelming
Since other male people have posted here too, I'll post my thoughts. It doesn't matter to me weather you're male, female, or something else, I rarely have a problem being around people. The main time I can think of where I'd feel weird or shy around people is if I have a crush on them but even then, sometimes that doesn't even happen.