Lesbians: do you feel uncomfortable around guys?

Strangely, I actually feel more comfortable around them now. I'm thinking it's because what they think or don't think about me doesn't matter to me anymore. (Because I thought I had to please them somehow.)

I have the same interest in them as I do for a nice dog I might meet in the street. We can have a nice encounter/conversation, even become friends. But that's it.

I'm sure this is an outlier's response but maybe you can re-jig your mindset a bit so that you can just be yourself and if they should ask you out or something similar, just have your reply ready - something like "thanks but I'm already involved". Grammatically ambiguous but may do the trick. And not a lie because you're involved with working on yourself.

 

I feel pretty uncomfortable around guys. I struggle to connect with them on an emotional level. I think my own hang-ups based on my past struggles with gender has a lot to do with it. When I was younger, I tried really hard to fit in with guys as a way to hide. It always backfired, and I had a lot of self-hatred for a long time. Now the behaviors and thinking patterns I recognize from the past sets me on edge.

 

I feel fine around guys, unless they're obviously creepy and aggressively flirting.
Actually I get along with guys better and I feel like I can be more myself when around guys, because they tend to be a bit more chill and easy-going, they wont be offended as easily and idk, I just feel quite comfy around them.

 

I kind of am, actually. I try to fight it though.

 

Some times,but it depends on if he's doing something that makes me uncomfortable.

 

Some guys make me uncomfortable, like single ones trying to hit on me. Or if they show too much interest in me cause in my experience that usually means they find you attractive.

 

I feel more comfortable around guys (not all guys obviously)...on the whole we seem to be on the same wavelength...have more to talk about...if I'm with straight women I worry they might be worried I fancy them or I'm going to hit on them...plus I'm not a real girly girl and just don't know how to talk about common female topics because they don't really figure on my radar...so when I try to socialise with women (in general) I end up feeling awkward...uncomfortable...like a fish out of water

 

I do feel uncomfortable around guys... I often feel like I'm being judged or sized up by them in a way most women don't seem to do. I think it's because I don't think I'm particularly attractive and I feel like they're looking down on me for that. I definitely feel more self conscious around more attractive men for that reason, it feels like they're more likely to "judge" than guys who are average or below average themselves. I realize a lot of this is likely projection of my own self consciousness, though. And determining I'm most likely lesbian has actually made me feel a little more at ease around men because I don't feel like I need to try to make myself attractive to them anymore.