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Lesbian or not...?? Please help.

Discussion in 'Sexual Orientation' started by BlueLuna, Aug 13, 2017 at 5:54 AM.

  1. BlueLuna

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    I know this is long and I'm sorry but please just read I really need help! My whole life (I'm 17) I knew I was attracted to girls I just didn't really know it or what it was until I became old enough to understand that it was actually a sexuality thing. I always wanted to be around girls and every time I had a best friend when I was younger I began to develop crushes for them, even as a teenager. As I became older though I started to question these feelings and realized I was actually attracted to girls. For a good 2-3 years I struggled with labeling myself as bi or just a lesbian. I dated guys before (as a teen) but I never really liked them nor did they give me mushy butterfly feelings like girls did. I didn't enjoy kissing or making out with guys either. I guess I just couldn't picture myself in a serious relationship with a guy in general, so I ended up deciding I was a lesbian, and everything was good for a while until I started questioning again if I was bi and maybe just leaned to the girls side more. I can tell if a guy is attractive and I think to myself "hmm well maybe I could try" but I don't really care for an attractive guy as I do with attractive girls. I've never been in love with a boy, maybe just liked one or two a little but nothing like what ive felt for girls, and when I fell in love with a girl. I never really fettished over any boys or boy bands when I was younger like other girls did and with all this I don't understand why I still think there's a possibility that I could be bi. Maybe I like the idea of being with a guy and being seemingly normal and feeling "protected" in a way but does that really mean I'm attracted to boys? Am I bi? Please help!
     
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    You sound nothing like bisexual to me.To me it just seems that you're a lesbian and worrying too much about it.
     
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    You're probably right, I do worry about it too much. Thank you though. Also I noticed your mood is brooding, are you okay?
     
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    My mood is brooding cause I'm a bit stressed out about my sexuality for some days cause of something.I recently did a post called "am i gay (confused)? You can see that for more info
     
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    Well, I could have written almost exactly the same post (I haven't dated anyone yet, but all the general feelings are the same), so I relate to you a lot. Honestly, I just wait for my brain to snap out of this miserable overthinking.
     
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    Ah, overthinking, I know it well. Story of my life really.
     
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    Same here. I wrote a post a few hours ago and Im so glad I'm not alone.
     
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    Hey it doesn't sound like you have the same feelings for guys as you do for girls. I think one of the reasons I had difficulty working out my sexuality is because I wasn't exactly turned off with guys (although I have no experience with them) I was just indifferent and it sounds like maybe that is the case with you. Don't stress about labels they really aren't that important.
     
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    Likely a Lez, regardless tho don't worry about it
     
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    Sounds gay to me. Everyone can identify esthetic beauty in both genders. But getting butterflies is a lot more telling. Yeah, naturally you wish you could like a guy and take the socially "easy" path. (Not like it's really that easy for anyone.) But that's all it is.

    And, you were nice to notice Ryder's mood and ask about it. You have social skills. Use them on some unsuspecting girl. :slight_smile:
     
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    honestly me too, I would be good with not labeling myself if I didn't over think so much. but hey it's cool to have someone I can relate with, the situation and the overthinking lol
     
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    Maybe you're right, I haven't thought about that before tbh, but thanks for taking the time to help
     
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    thanks this actually helped a lot, and lmaoo yeah I definitely try
     
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