Just been on a date with a girl and I don't know how I feel

Hey I think it will get easier as you get older and understand your thoughts and feelings better. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself to think you should feel one way or another. For me it takes a while to get to know someone before I can truely start to like them so maybe you can go on some more dates with this girl, assuming you want to and then see how you feel about her after that. Just don't feel pressured into doing anything you don't want to or to test yourself.

 

i did not expect to come here and find so many relatable threads in .2 seconds. but seriously, i know how you feel. i was just crying in the bathroom a minute ago because i had the exact thought that i was scared of never falling in love but that it would be so much easier. i've also had the same heart-beating, sweaty palm feeling with people, and i've been in love with people before (but i've never dated someone, as soon as things start getting serious i lose all feeling). im not sure how i feel about guys or girls, but i'll just focus on girls for now. i'll get a major crush on a girl and then it'll just stop, and i don't know what that means. i'm only 19, and every time i talk about this people tell me how we won't know until we know (which means until we find someone we feel strongly about), and that sexuality is so difficult for women because we're brought up believing that our worth is tied to our desirability to men, and that women can get power by being attractive to men, etc., so that it's totally normal to be 100% confused and feelingless and numb when thinking about everyone because it just takes longer for us to figure it out.

 

Newbies give good advice! You have been thinking about this, apparently. I predict a good life for you.

 

Haha, sweet! Hope you're right!

 

Coming to terms with sex and sexuality is an incredibly powerful thing, whatever your gender or orientation. It's a great unknown and the world bombards you with a range of expectations, from the most wonderful sensation of love and belonging to the deepest feelings of shame and rejection. Given all that, I think it's incredibly common for people to be overwhelmed with their first experiences. There's a great chance that your expectations -good or bad- won't be matched exactly and you can find yourself experiencing every emotion possible, all at once.
Someone once told me that we cry for two reasons, confusion or fear and whether that's right or wrong I like to believe it. For whatever reason, it seems that when you cry it really helps to make sense of things, balance your emotions and overcome fear, so if that's what you need right now then let yourself do it. If it feels right for you then it's normal.

Most importantly, I would add that it usually helps to discuss these feelings, especially if you think that an otherwise healthy emotion is becoming too overwhelming. In other words, if you feel that you may be depressed or suffering unusual anxiety, it's important to ask for support.

There may even come a time in your life when you look back on these days and wish you could experience these emotions over again.