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Is it wrong to flirt?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by Danabutton, Jul 10, 2018 at 1:24 PM.

  1. Danabutton

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    im new to this site and really appreciate the support I have received.....
    Question; if one is still trying to come to terms with their orientation, is it wrong to flirt?
     
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    Hi. I am also in this situation and I am questioning to and not out to anyone.
    I do know I flirt with this one girl I like that is out. But I think it is okay to flirt.
     
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    I think flirting is pretty harmless. Until someone catches feelings that is. :grin: I love to flirt.
     
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    I don't think it is wrong at all to flirt. How can one come to terms with their sexuality if they don't try it on for size sometimes? Flirting is a great way to do this.

    This question wouldn't even come up if we were straight people talking about seeing someone attractive of the opposite sex and doing some harmless flirting. I love to flirt with guys (even straight ones to some extent) and with women. Even if I am with my wife and she will do the same. Neither of us cares because it means nothing.
     
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    I don't think so. I am a massive flirt. I flirt with everyone. It's fun and harmless.
     
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    Over the years I’ve found myself inadvertently flirting. I don’t realize I’m doing it. I’ve only done it with women though. If someone were flirting with me I probably wouldn’t realize it
     
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    Can someone help me to understand what "flirting" is? I do incidental brief conversation's all the time, but I don't think that's flirting. I know, I ought to know the answer, but I don't.
     
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    It is hard to describe.

    I like to make direct eye contact, maybe a little smile, or a non-creepy wink (hard to master when you're my age), compliment his/her clothes or that they look like they lost weight. For guys, it might be "I wish I could build up my arms like yours". Just small talk. Often times with some suggestive body language. I like to compliment a woman's smile.

    It can go from being cute to being creepy pretty fast so if you have never done it (I bet you have) be careful!

    If you are Presidential material, it can include almost anything (oops I shouldn't have wrote that)
     
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    Yeah, I think that's nice, assuming it's on the cute side and not creepy. I am heavily conditioned from my years in the corporate environment to steer clear of anything that could be perceived as flirting. Too bad.