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Is it possible to be too tomboyish?

Discussion in 'LGBT Later in Life' started by junebug99, Oct 7, 2017.

  1. junebug99

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    Even when I had longer hair most people thought that I was boyish. Now that my hair is way shorter I still get the same reaction from most people. Even my Mom criticizes me about it. The way I get my hair cut and how I dress. But I've always been that way and I'm comfortable in my own skin. It may take longer to find a girl that's right for me. But I'm willing to wait. Because I know It will be worth it. Just wondered if anyone else feels the same way?
     
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    I don't think It's wrong. I was tomboyish when I was younger....still sort of am,but not as much. You are who you are.
     
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    No such thing as *too* tomboyish. Some chicks really dig that look -- like **really** dig it. My mom is freaking out too. Fuck 'em.
     
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    Everyone has different tastes so I think you will be fine. Just be who you are and if someone doesn't like that well probably not a good person to be with then. I think we all deserve to be comfortable and be ourselves. I have struggled with how I look or how I dress but now I am like fuck it take me as I am or not.
     
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    Aren’t a lot of gay women tomboyish as the stereotype came from somewhere. I would be yourself as that’s what I plan on doing as if they don’t like that I’m not girly then tough sh@t! Plenty more fish in the sea.
     
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    Nomnothing wrong with at all if that's how you feel most comfortable. I don't think it will be harder to find a woman.
     
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    I don't think you can ever be too tomboyish or too femme or too whatever else. All we can do is be whoever we are. With no apologies and no explanations. Others can sense authenticity, and tend to react positively to the confidence a person carries. (A relatively new life lesson for me, of MANY recent life lessons :wink:

    Whatever feels right in your soul is perfect! :slight_smile:
     
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    She gives me such a hard time about it too. And says things that are hurtful. I've gotten pretty mad at her and she still does it.
     
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    You got that right!
     
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    I've always known who I am and how I feel comfortable. She's the one that doesn't like it. And I'm tired of being criticized by my own Mom for just being Me!
     
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    Good point. I shaved my hair too short at the back for my Moms liking. But I love it. When she said something about it I said well I like it. And then she was quiet about it. I always stop her when she gets like that.
     
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    Your comfort matters. I'm tomboyish myself and I don't complain about lack of love life. I think you're good as long as you look decent, as lomg as you put some effort into it and culture. Don't force yourself into being someone else, that would do you no good. You don't want to date who in fact doesn't like you, I did... no fun.
     
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    Your comfort matters. I'm tomboyish myself and I don't complain about lack of love life. I think you're good as long as you look decent, as lomg as you put some effort into it and culture. Don't force yourself into being someone else, that would do you no good. You don't want to date who in fact doesn't like you, I did... no fun.
     
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    Oh well--regarding mothers--mine thinks I CAN'T possibly be a lebian because I'm not tomboyish. According to her I'm 'confused'. Of course every single thing I have done since moment one she has found something to be critical about (from my penmanship to my choice of partners!) Right, they usually shut up when we speak up. :slight_smile:
     
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    Mine thinks people will mistake me for lesbian. Little does she know!
     
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    Gets some tattoos too if you haven’t already!
     
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    I have two! Planning a third one!
     
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    I think a strong women with tattoos and partly shaved hair is a cool look. If only I had the guts to do the same! You own your style and sod what others think!
     
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    I did it in stages. I had really long hair. Its been short for years now. Much less effort as well. I am too lazy for long hair.
     
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    Shaved hair and tattoos... that sounds like it could be sexy so I see no issue lol. I think the right person will like you for you.

    I'm not overly feminine in my style atm but I guess I'm not boyish enough that people complain. I mostly dress for comfort, some day I might make an effort again. My mother is weirdly fussy about my appearance though, so I understand that. One day I turned up with colored hair. She disliked it so much she said nothing.
     
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